Hi All,
I just wanted any feedback about my situation as I feel like I am slowly spiralling out of control and do not what to do about my relationship.
I have been with my boyfriend to 6 months now, I'm 30, he's 33. We have fallen in love but recently have been constantly arguing about other females that are in his life. Just to give you a breakdown of the situation, he has 2 female best friends, one he has slept with, one who was in love with him for 10 years, he works with an ex girlfriend who was an older woman who I found naked pictures of her on his computer when I first started seeing him. Recently I have also found out he has been looking at a lot of Milf porn on the internet, and always the same woman. He says he has a low sex drive, but then I find he has been looking at all of this. We do have good sex, but maybe once a week.
He has convinced me that I am insanely jealous so much that I have now started to see a therapist, which has only slightly helped, more for me to vent than anything.
What annoys me is that I feel like I am being so unreasonable by being annoyed or threatened by these things. His female friends text him and email him a lot. I also found text messages he has sent to one of them calling her a pet name. He wants me to accept also him being friends with an ex lover, who is now just a 'friend' as well.
Last week we had an argument because we were going for a drink to his workplace but he told me he would have to tell his ex first as she would be 'shocked' to see me with him and she would be uncomfortable because they had a bad break up.
I am completely torn because I have fallen in love with him but I also feel like I am having to contend with a lot.
I would appreciate anyone's advice or comments.
Thank you!