Need some advice...

[rb4187]

Any advice you guys have would be great.

Was dumped about a month ago by a really good girl. We were together for over 2.5 years. The end of things was my fault, I was emotionally distant at times over the last 10 months due to stress of finances.

We had contact for the first 2 weeks, she said she was confused and had questions she needed to answer for herself.

Right now, she is pissed. Pissed about everything. Upset that I didn't fight for her when we broke up and that I didn't say a whole lot, pissed that I have told my feelings to other people since the break up and never told her when we were together, just pissed. She has been on a few dates with somebody else and a friend asked her if his name was rebound, and she joked and said might as well be.

At happy hour the other night, a mutual female friend asked her, what do you want me to tell him, that it is completely over, done, kaput? And her response was, you know what, don't tell him anything. Th ex also said there is no doubt that he loves me and I love him, but I just can't be in a relationship where this is no communication.

A few folks have said that this is her way of making me pine for her, make me miserable, and to teach me a good lesson. Another female was not as positive.

The two girls that spent time with her the other night, have both said that I need to call her and lay it all on the line, that the longer I wait, the worse off I am.

What do you guys think? Would you call her?

[Bumble_bee]

If you want her back...call her

[PsychoPink]

Jesus. You're whining about how she's off with this other guy. You admit that you were distant towards the end of the relationship.

She's not playing games with you-she's trying to get over you.

If you love her and you both are willing to open the lines of communication give her a call. But don't try to turn this around and make it completely her fault. Communication takes two.

[rb4187]

No, not whining at all. Can't blame her for dating. She is a hottie with a lot to offer and is a catch.

And certainly not making it her fault. It all rests on my shoulders.

And she is definitely not playing games, she is truly pissed because she really cares. She is upset because all she wanted was for me to open up to her.

[Bumble_bee]

have you called her yet?

[rb4187]

No, her birthday was last night and she is probably not feeling so well today.

Any advice when I call her tomorrow?

[Bumble_bee]

aks her if you guys can get together and talk, and then go with what your friends have said and ''lay it all on the line''

Nothing to lose right?

[rb4187]

you are right, just a nervous wreck waiting until tomorrow at 11.

Wish me luck and hope she answers.

[Bumble_bee]

good luck then..

[rb4187]

Ahhh! It went right to voicemail. Damn. Didn't even give her the chance to pick up.

Left a message that said I feel like I am getting advice from 10 different people and that I have confided in a couple of them, but you are really the person I need to be talking to. Told her that I had a couple of things to talk about and it would be real important to both of us. Just asked her to call me when she has a chance.

At least I made the call. It is in her court and I have done what I can do. I guess keep moving on and leave it where it is.