Is he interested?

[smiley1979]

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This is probably a silly question but I'm going to ask it anyway. I just met this guy at a group a couple weeks ago. We're just acquaintances right know. We've only met twice. We don't go to the same college so we only see each other at this group once a week. The first week, he introduced himself and we talked for a couple of minutes. After that 5 of us went out for coffee. Before we ordered, he and I talked for a while. He asked me a lot about myself and seemed very excited about what I was talking about. He was smiling the whole time we were talking. When he came to join the 4 of us at the table, he sat between the two tables facing me. And he also offered me one of his donuts.

The next week after the group ended, he saw me, smiled and said hi, he remembered my name then he asked how I was doing? Later when he came back into the room, I thanked him for the books. He asked if I wanted the rest of them. I said I did. He told me he was joking.

After the group, 3 of us went out for something to eat. He smiled the whole time and he always seems to stand right beside me. We all talked about different things. Whenever I wasn't saying anything, either one of the guys would notice. This particular guy asked me what I wanted to talk about. I didn't have any particular thing I wanted to talk about. We were making jokes about reading the paper and he said jokingly pointing in a general direction saying " Hey honey, what does this say." Then he proceeded to say "Not that I have a honey." When we were talking about tv and movies. I told my movie preferences and he said "We wouldn't get along" but in a nice way. When he mentioned a particular show and I said that I liked it. He said excitedly "You do" then he said " I'm surprised." He also told me that I could come to watch a movie at the college when they put it on. Once the 3 of us left the restaraunt, he wanted to see my car. He examined the back of it and said it was a really nice car. While we were outside, I mentioned that I didn't bring any blankets to residence and he said he had a ton and I could borrow one if I wanted.

So, my question is. Is he interested? Am I reading too much into this.

There's a movie playing at his college. He asked me if I had seen that movie and casually mentioned that I should go. I didn't respond at the moment. A few days later I emailed him and asked him when the movie was. He replied with a smiley face and told me when the movie was. He asked me how many people I was thinking of bringing with me.

I asked him if I could borrow a blanket. Anyway, we met at a store and he bought me a blanket! I thanked him very much. I met him at the store and we walked around and talked a little. So, does this mean anything or is he just a real friendly guy? I mean what is your opinion. I know no one can tell for sure if he's interested but what do you think?

I did end up going to the movie alone. He sat beside me but nothing happened but I think that's because his friends were there. When he first sat down, we both looked at each other and smiled but didn't say anything. Then later on while we were watching the movie, out of the corner of my eye I caught him looking at me. I just want to know if he likes me how long do you think it will take him to ask me out? What is the shortest time period and what is the longest for a man to ask a woman out? P.S. I've never dated or been in a relationship so I don't really know how this works and I'm also shy.

[Bumble_bee]

I'm not a guy, but he is definately paying you some attention. Next group meeting ask him out for a coffee (so that you're alone with him), if he is interested he will ask you out on a date after the coffee...if he isn't he will leave it there..

[ellie]

He is interested, he just needs some encouragement. He probably wants to ask you out but is maybe wondering whether or not you are interested in him too. Bumble bee's suggestion is good. Ask him out for coffee or something "small" where you two can be alone and and take it from there.

[Sanctuary]

I'm a guy and I can say that he's interested for sure.

I just want to know if he likes me how long do you think it will take him to ask me out?

The more confident he is that you will say yes, the sooner he'll ask you out. But instead of waiting, why not take Bumblebee's suggestion - girls that take the initiative are awesome!

What is the shortest time period and what is the longest for a man to ask a woman out?

"There's a movie playing at his college. He asked me if I had seen that movie and casually mentioned that I should go. I didn't respond at the moment."

Lol he kinda asked you out right there and you didn't give him an answer - poor guy. If he had fun at the movie, he'll probably ask you out again soon. Or you can just take Bumblebee's advice. Good luck!

[smiley1979]

I'm a guy and I can say that he's interested for sure.

I just want to know if he likes me how long do you think it will take him to ask me out?

The more confident he is that you will say yes, the sooner he'll ask you out. But instead of waiting, why not take Bumblebee's suggestion - girls that take the initiative are awesome!

What is the shortest time period and what is the longest for a man to ask a woman out?

"There's a movie playing at his college. He asked me if I had seen that movie and casually mentioned that I should go. I didn't respond at the moment."

Lol he kinda asked you out right there and you didn't give him an answer - poor guy. If he had fun at the movie, he'll probably ask you out again soon. Or you can just take Bumblebee's advice. Good luck!

You mean to tell me that he asked me out and I didn't even know it? Unfortunately, I don't think I'm going to take Bumblebee's advice right at the moment. How does a guy know a girl is interested in him besides her telling him directly? Can he pick up on the body language? What makes him think she isn't and what kind of things scare a guy off, if any?

[smiley1979]

So, when I went to the movie, was that considered a date? If it was, I feel so stupid for not knowing. Do guys actually ask a girl straight out to go out with them? To me, it seemed more like nonverbal flirting and some verbal flirting.

[FullofSighs]

Yeah that can happen, depending on the type of guy he is, not saying its a bad or good thing just how he is. And you can really call it w.e you want, but i would say anything like that is a date, even if its unofficial.

[SAVANAH]

some hactic flirting.... I agree he seems to be looking for some assurance or atleast a hint from your side, ask him for coffee of just flirt a little bit more, touch him; compliment him and so on... you should know the drill... seems like a really nice guy BTW

[Sanctuary]

You mean to tell me that he asked me out and I didn't even know it?

It wasn't like a date date - but ya, he's interested in you

Unfortunately, I don't think I'm going to take Bumblebee's advice right at the moment. How does a guy know a girl is interested in him besides her telling him directly?

She compliments him. She asks him questions about himself.

Smile you see him - that's killer.

Can he pick up on the body language?

The art of subtlety is lost on us. For the most part we don't pick up on body language but physical contact does set off alarm bells. Just don't smother him.

I notice when girls play with their hair, but I don't suggest you randomly start twirling your hair. lol

What makes him think she isn't and what kind of things scare a guy off, if any?

He'll think you're uninterested if you don't respond when he calls/txts/e-mails you. Also, if you start flirting with other guys it'll discourage him.

As for scaring him off, just be a girl and you can't scare him off. lol

[Bumble_bee]

if you do not reciprocate his efforts to see you, then how the heck will he be encouraged to keep asking you out...why does he have to do all the work?

[ellie]

Not all guys will ask a girl out directly, some wants to "feel things out" first to make sure the girl is interested before asking her out. Guys have feelings too, they are also scared of rejection!

He is hinting all the time and is waiting for you to respond, and as of yet it doesn't seem like you are doing much to let him know you are interested?

Just being nice doesn't neccessarily mean he's taking it as a clue you're interested, you have to be more obvious than that (though not over the top).

You don't have to ask him out on a proper date.

This is how it works: You take a small step, such as asking him out for a coffee, and he will then take it from there if he is interested, and take the next big step - ask you on a real date! He just needs encouragement. Then you continue to give him small clues, start touching him a little, like putting your hand on his arm, and he will take the next step (hug you, kiss you) etc.

You take a small step - he takes a big one.

[lastwish]

Why don't you just ask him out directly? I find most guys are chickens. You must make it clear you like him. Say "If I ask you out, would you say yes?". I don't think the movie thing was an official date. If it was then he would have said so. If you are the type of girl who needs reassurance then after the first date, wait for him to ask you out the second time.

[smiley1979]

It's been about a week and he hasn't replied to any of my emails. What should I do? Do you think he's still interested?

[ellie]

I would wait a bit and see if he replies. If not, I'd stop emailing and ask him out in person next time I saw him. You meet in that group sometimes? Why don't you talk to him next time you see him, face to face interactions says a whole lot more than online communication.

[chump4u]

Probably not. Look at it from his perspective:

He tried to interest you in him, and you pretty well shot him down by refusing his invitation to the movie, then showing up by yourself and essentially ignoring him through the evening.

If he has any sense he has "moved on"-- far and fast.