hi i have been single for almost 2 years now after a really bad break up from a long relationship i found myself not even wanting to date or have a relationship with anyone untill a few month back i started talking to somone i work with alot more and i found myself getting closer and closer to her the bad thing is i cant see it really going further than this because about 4 or 5 months ago she used to go out with a really good friend of mine, there relationship was on and off and only lasted about 3 months but even considering this is made me think this is going to cause problems and the last thing i want to do is lose one of my best friends over this. But i cant seem to pull myself away from her my question i want to ask is should i just forget this and not mention to anyone or should i tell my friend that i like her and see what he says about it all? i have kept this all to myself for about 2 months now and until now no one else knows not even her she doesnt know i like her and niether do any of my other friends im quite worried abount my friends reaction if i told him let alone hers. Im finding myself falling for her the more i talk to her, any advice would be great and if anyone has been in the situation before id like to hear how you delt with it thanks in advance.
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Thread: I want to be with my m8's ex
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24-09-09, 05:13 AM #1
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I want to be with my m8's ex
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24-09-09, 06:04 AM #2
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Well if you know your best friend well enough how do you THINK he'd take it. Would he be raging pissed and never forgive that you even THOUGHT of the idea. Or would be be displeased but can maybe get over it. If it's the latter I would talk to him about it.
Mention a few things:
-nothing happened- yet
-you just like her
-you know their past, and respect it
-he's your good buddy and you don't want to go behind his back
-you will understand if he doesn't like it
*if these statements are true...
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24-09-09, 06:15 AM #3
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Bros before girls.
it will never be the same for you and your friend when you date this girl.
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24-09-09, 06:42 AM #4
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It will certainly affect if not ruin your reputation among your friends! Stay away from her if you can resist.
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24-09-09, 07:57 AM #5
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Dating friends ex's has never been a good idea.
"What you really fear is inside yourself. You fear your own power.
You fear your own anger, the drive to do great and terrible things."
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24-09-09, 10:50 AM #6
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Yeah, dude just stay away from it, i know from experience and it sucks, i never dated my friends ex but i asked him how he would feel about it and he was super pissed off just from me asking about it.
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24-09-09, 11:37 AM #7
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I second that.
Originally Posted by Cbrider
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24-09-09, 12:24 PM #8
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Eh, I don't see anything wrong with asking. If he doesn't like it then don't pursue it. If he doesn't care then go for it.
I don't chase, I replace.
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24-09-09, 04:56 PM #9
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Mmmm... leftovers.
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24-09-09, 10:20 PM #10
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Do you know how your friend feels about her? That will be key. If they were off and on for just a few months he can't have that strong of an attachment to her. Rather than asking for his blessing or opinion, I would just tell him what's going on and let it go from there. I've never dated a friends ex, but I have hooked up with them and it's never been an issue. Many of my friends have dated the same girls without incident, so I don't see why it should be a problem unless your friend is just a p*ssy that will hold a grudge. You know him better than any of us do; is he a real best friend or is he a p*ssy that will hold a grudge?
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25-09-09, 02:21 AM #11
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yeah they where on and off for 3 months or so my friend has another girlfriend now but i guess thats beside the point most of you reckon i should just let this one go easy said than done i think i have got myself abit attached to her which i know was the wrong thing to do.
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25-09-09, 11:19 AM #12
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Every girl is someone's leftovers. Originally Posted by doppelgaenger
I don't chase, I replace.
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25-09-09, 11:41 AM #13
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well in my case, my friend was with her for 2 years, and he still loves her to this day, and he is very possessive so asking would piss him off lol.
But all in all, STAY AWAY FROM IT EVEN IF THEY WERE ON AND OFF FOR A COUPLE OF MONTHS. its a matter of trust really.
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25-09-09, 12:34 PM #14
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Don't ask and let it go. It's one of those common sense things. Like you wouldn't ask if you could pee in your friend's pocket.
Don't cry, don't regret and don't blame
Weak find the whip, willing find freedom
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Ask the wind for the way
Uncertainty's gone, your path will unravel
Accept all as it is and do not blame
God or the Devil
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