How can I get her?

[eide]

I like a girl very much, I know for a fact that she liked me until about two weeks ago (she showed every sign). Unfortunately I'm not very experienced with women (TBH I'm 18 and unkissed...) although I look good. So I didn't have the guts to tell her back then that I like her too, lately she hasn't showed the same signs (like touching her hair, being close to me for no reasone etc.). I fear she's given me up, but I love her. I sent her a text messgae about a week ago, asking what she was doing at the weekend, she said she would go out with her bf. But I don't think she has a bf (she's never talked about him to her best friend, for example), as I've heard.

So since I understood that she didn't like me anymore I gave her some space, didn't talk to her much for about a week except for a few Hi's. Today I went to my school's library to study, she was there as well. I decided not to talk to her since she was studying. So I took up my textbooks and she asked me if I had a test or smth, I said next Tuesday. Later I was joined by some friends and a friend of her went there too to sit with her. Since I'm very interested I looked at her a lot (it seemed quite obvious) inbetween talking to my friends and studying. I saw that she looked at me as well and smiled. So before I was going to class I talked to her a little bit about next week's tests. She answered but slushed, she looked at me in an "I'm interested" kind of way.

So I've been getting mixed signals lately. If I sit next to her she usually goes to another part of the room as soon as possible, she seems to stay away from me. But today she seemed a little bit interested again.

Basically, I'm very confused. Is she lost for me? Please help!! Sorry for the long post

[ellie]

Find out if she really has a boyfriend first. I don't understand why she would lie + give you signs she's interested?

Either she's interested, even though she is in relationship. Or, she's interested and lied for whatever reason. Or, she's not interested and lied to make it clear she's not interested. But that doesn't seem to be the case.

Just ask her out. Make a move. What have you done to let her know you're interested?
She can't read your mind! Ask her out!


The bf thing concerns me though.


And as far as the mixed signals go: She's giving you mixed signals because she's not sure if you like her back. You need to show her you are interested too.

(Plus, if she likes you she's probably nervous when you're around, that's why she stays away sometimes. I've done that myself. You get so nervous that you just kinda back off instead of showing you're interested, because you're not sure if the person likes you back)

[eide]

Find out if she really has a boyfriend first. I don't understand why she would lie + give you signs she's interested?

Either she's interested, even though she is in relationship. Or, she's interested and lied for whatever reason. Or, she's not interested and lied to make it clear she's not interested. But that doesn't seem to be the case.

Just ask her out. Make a move. What have you done to let her know you're interested?
She can't read your mind! Ask her out!


The bf thing concerns me though.


And as far as the mixed signals go: She's giving you mixed signals because she's not sure if you like her back. You need to show her you are interested too.

(Plus, if she likes you she's probably nervous when you're around, that's why she stays away sometimes. I've done that myself. You get so nervous that you just kinda back off instead of showing you're interested, because you're not sure if the person likes you back)

But how do I find out if she has a bf without asking her? Which seems rude IMO... Pershaps I can ask he best friend (one of our few mutual friends) but they live like 1 hour from each other so I doubt she'll know that...

How do I show her I'm interested without making it too obvious? Or should it be obvious?

Thanks

[ellie]

How do I show her I'm interested without making it too obvious? Or should it be obvious?

It should be obvious.

Ask her out? Start talking to her, say hi everytime you see her, initiate a conversation. When you sit next to her, start talking to her. Don't wait for something to happen. Start a conversation, ask her if she wants to hang out sometime.

Coffee, lunch, watch a movie, watch a game, whatever....
Call her and ask if she wants to do something sometime, just the two of you.

The bf thing I really don't know. Sounds really odd to me. I have no idea why she would flirt with you if she wasn't interested.

[Sanctuary]

I can't tell if she's interested or not but she might be.

The bf thing doesn't matter. Talk to her and hang out with her anyway to see where it goes. You should be able to figure out where you stand.

With any luck, even if she had a boyfriend, she'll leave him. F*ck the boyfriend. LOL

[FullofSighs]

Maybe she wanted to see how you would react to the statement "boyfriend". But it seems like that she did like you and when you didnt return the feelings she moved on, but now that you are returning some of the feelings she may be getting the feelings she used to have for you back. So if she really doesnt have a bf then ask her out or something.