Need help plz!!!!!

**DANNY82** · 28-09-09, 03:36 PM

my girlfriend and i have been going out for almost a year now. We met in a classroom in school where i had to take a test to make up. long story short she liked me and went for me. we where a very sexual couple we would make jokes and stuff and our first time was with eachother. But somewhere along the way it went from her chasing me to me chasing her im always trying to make a move or trying to make a conversation but nothing i ever talk about is intresting to her (recently we wherent like this in the begining).she blames it on me saying i wont understand what she tries to say and a part of me thinks it might be true.Btw she had a previous online boyfriend who would talk to her about all kinds of stuff and have deep intresting thoughts and who had a thought procsess much like her`s. Now i try to have conversations and when she gets mad she comes to me to talk about it and recently ive been trying to help her but i cant seem to pull it off. Infact i make her even more angry.(incase you havent noticed she has a short fuse) she complains about how no one understands her and how stupid i am and how i have bad grammer. this pisses me off(duh) she is 3 years younger than me and is pretty immature but i love her like i saw myself being married to her and living with her but im afraid shes going to stop talking to me about her problems and talk to someone else(someone like her exbf).and my questions are for you how do you find something intresting to talk about?(e.x:do you find it in the news do you talk to people? ect)how can i make it so that she is chasing me if possible. how can i change myself or her so that we can talk about something without getting into a huge fight.

**Reath** · 28-09-09, 04:30 PM

She's playing you? She probably have a dude in he closet if you're not careful that's what I can dictate.

No girls blame her guy for having shit for English and comprehension. She's looking down on you and she's looking from a really high place.

The only thing you want to get her attention is to show you're the man. Stop being a floormat, doormat, etc and start focusing on your career. You're probably slacking that which she found it likeable but now you're neglecting it but I do suggest you rid of her. Not a good girl by the way you put it in my opinion.

**DANNY82** · 28-09-09, 10:14 PM

thanks Reath i agree that she sees me as like a lower person but i dont think shes playing with me she has very high morals or at least she seems to as far as relationships go she tells me that her religion is love sounds corny at first but it kinda makes sense because you believe in your bf/gf and they cheer you up ect. except im not doing that...

**Bumble_bee** · 28-09-09, 10:45 PM

how can you like someone who thinks you're stupid?

**DANNY82** · 29-09-09, 04:14 AM

its more like i dont have a higher level of thinking she says"you dont think about a situation you just take it as it is, i have an opinion i think about it ect." and im kind of a masochist i have a habit of telling myself im stupid or bad or ugly ect. but she doesnt purposly use it against me or anything though

**Reath** · 29-09-09, 06:23 PM

Then she's a sadist and she likes seeing you in PAIN.... woot SM? How about BD?

**DANNY82** · 30-09-09, 05:58 AM

LOL no she hates it when i complain and gets depressed about it. and thanks but ive kinda figured it out already, i like to be a masochist and i worry about our relationship going bad and so i complain about it and i think of our relationship going bad but the thing is by complaining about it im making it worse in a diffrent way so i decided to kinda have low expectations of this relationship not to say ive given up but more like if we break up then fine it was fun and i still love her and stuff but im not gonna ruin my relationship as it is now by complaining its like worrying about our relationship while im ruining it in a diffrent way its ironic. and thanks bumble bee your question got me thinking and i just figured it out from there some how.

**Bumble_bee** · 30-09-09, 10:24 AM

Danny, you should know her by now, and know her interests, talk about those, but if she keeps putting you down at your attemps to make conversation i'd say ......

You deserve better....

**Reath** · 30-09-09, 08:59 PM

Originally Posted by Bumble_bee

Danny, you should know her by now, and know her interests, talk about those, but if she keeps putting you down at your attemps to make conversation i'd say ......

You deserve better....

Yea... a few whips on your crack sounds about right too...

**DANNY82** · 01-10-09, 09:27 AM

lmao thanks guys i agree my problem was that i kept thinking about the negitive and talked about that and well that can get annoying to someone expecially if that person is giving advice but is being ignored :\

**Reath** · 01-10-09, 02:22 PM

You know your problem. Stop being so emo cause you can whip your own ass too if you learn how.

**SS Gal** · 01-10-09, 03:15 PM

Danny, a relationship that involves someone calling the other "stupid" or a lot of fighting is not a healthy one to be in. I'm glad you see how your negativity can be a downer, but how she treats you will feed that feeling of not being good enough. Movies you watch or have watched, music, the news....there are a number of things you can talk about as long as you have a willing partner to discuss them with, not one that always criticizes you. I know you don't want to hear it, but if she doesn't care for or respect you enough to change her ways, you will be better off without someone like that in your life. There are plenty of girls out there that don't act that way. Good luck.

**Bumble_bee** · 01-10-09, 06:05 PM

Originally Posted by Reath

Yea... a few whips on your crack sounds about right too...

was that a play on words or did you mean ''a few cracks on your whip'' ?

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