I know it shouldn't bother me...

[bob97]

My girlfriend has only had one experience past second base before me and it was with a woman. She loves me and I love her but for some reason that fact just bothers me. She told me how it happened because i thought it would help but now when were separated I start to miss her, but then i think of words like "except under my shirt" or "she asked if it felt good but i just kept moaning". I think its the fact that she gave into lust so easily when i have had opportunities but did not. any advice D:?

[girl68]

It's not the fact she gave into lust- its the fact you think she's tainted.

[Disillusioned]

Dude, when I read "she asked if it felt good but I just kept moaning" I got insecure. I'm a hypocrite for telling you to get over it though cause I know it would bother me too, even though I know it shouldn't. For me it's the concept of the look on her face during the act that would bother me most. Good idea to beat your imagination into submission. You could ask her not to bring it up any more because it makes you feel uncomfortable but honesty usually gets you shot.

[bloodtippedrose]

second base w/ a girl and youre upset? insecure much?

[speakerspoke]

second base w/ a girl and youre upset? insecure much?

He's not insecure, he has feelings for the girl. She hooked up with someone and when he could he did not, because.......drum roll please.......he has feelings for the girl.

That sucks man, but the good news is there are plenty of other girls n the world who you won't have to deal with this from if you two do not work it out.

[girl68]

second base = hooked up!?

shiiiiiiet... depending on how old you are- goodluck finding a girl who hasn't done AT LEAST that. your dating pool went from 'pool party of the summer' to 'this ain't a pool! it's a kiddie tub!'

[speakerspoke]

second base = hooked up!?

shiiiiiiet... depending on how old you are- goodluck finding a girl who hasn't done AT LEAST that. your dating pool went from 'pool party of the summer' to 'this ain't a pool! it's a kiddie tub!'

You missed the point, it's that she fooled around with someone while they were separated.

[girl68]

My girlfriend has only had one experience past second base before me and it was with a woman.

Uhh, if I'm correct- it was before, not during a break. The break came later. (I think).

[speakerspoke]

Uhh, if I'm correct- it was before, not during a break. The break came later. (I think).

If you are correct, which at this juncture seems remote. lol

p.s. What mood is breezy, is that kind of like feeling "fresh"? lol

[bloodtippedrose]

yeah I read it like it was before him too. And I agree with girl68 when she says "goodluck finding a girl who hasn't done AT LEAST that"
Girls are becoming whores at like 14.

and if i were you bob97, I wouldnt read alot into it, it sounds like experimentation, its not like she was serious with the girl.

[Disillusioned]

I don't care if I'm the best, I just don't want to know if I'm not. I'd feel like "What's the point, I don't even feel like it anymore"
I think it's a matter of TMI, personally.

[bloodtippedrose]

Well I think bob97 will get over it.
when i first started dating my current boyfriend I told him all the guys that I had slept with (4 before him) and he felt like "next one on the list" for a month or two. Now he knows that he's better than they ever were.
he got over it, you will too