Scared of an orgasm?

[DANNY82]

My girlfriend tells me that she is scared of orgasming she says she is afraid of peeing/ she feels like peeing and is afraid because of this. I was wondering if some of you could give me more insite into this and if possible how you over came this.(no pun intended.) thanks in advance

[speakerspoke]

Sounds like an anxiety issue.

A professional she feels comfortable with may be able to help.

[Graham Berkeley]

Thats normal. When she orgasm the sensation is similar to peeing since fluid is excreted but it isn't pee. Tell her to let go and relax and let whats going to happen happen.

[vashti]

Tell her to urinate before you have sex. And no, the sensation is NOT the same as peeing, but I understand her fear of doing so if the bladder is too full... in fact, they say that women who "squirt" actually may be suffering from stress incontinence.

[DANNY82]

Tell her to urinate before you have sex. And no, the sensation is NOT the same as peeing, but I understand her fear of doing so if the bladder is too full... in fact, they say that women who "squirt" actually may be suffering from stress incontinence.

i know its prob gonna be hard to describe to me but how does it feel if its not the same as peeing? how is it diffrent? infact can you describe both as i dont know how it feels. (duh)

[vashti]

orgasms? hmm... i don't know how to describe it. maybe like when you have to sneeze REALLY bad, and then you finally do... only it is 100x more powerful?

urinating - well, i assume you know how that feels.

[ecojeanne]

the heart races, major heat, blinding for that split second and then tingles all over the body, feeling of euphoria and then no feeling of anything for about 30 seconds after and then feeling comes back and pure relaxation sets in

[Graham Berkeley]

Tell her to urinate before you have sex. And no, the sensation is NOT the same as peeing, but I understand her fear of doing so if the bladder is too full... in fact, they say that women who "squirt" actually may be suffering from stress incontinence.

Thats just what women who haven't had an earth shattering squirting orgasm say ;P

[vashti]

Thats just what women who haven't had an earth shattering squirting orgasm say ;P

That's just what men say after realizing their partner has peed on them.

[SummersLove]

I've not been able to cum a few times due to fear.
I am a squirter and until someone gets used to it, your gonna be thinking about what your man is going to think when you shower him.

Also it depends on what kind of orgasm. Clitoral stimulation and G spot stimulation both have a different feeling. I haven't noticed the peeing sensation with Clitoral, however with the G spot I feel the need to pee instantly.

If she is concentrating on it too much, this may keep her from reaching orgasm. She may not want you to "get tired" or not want you to think something is wrong with her if she takes too long to cum, so she may just simply be using that as an excuse. Women often think about too much during sex. Worse thing a girl can do.

[Aeradalia]

I'd have to agree with Vashti... the sensation to need to urinate does not feel the same as an orgasm.

Explaining the feeling of an orgasm to a male would be quite difficult. Nearest I can describe it is that if feels like it somehow focuses on two places at once... there is a lot of tensing and rapid breathing and what have you... but the need to urinate is not among them.

If anything, being able to actually urinate is hindered and just about impossible (for me anyway) until I finally relax.

Maybe there's something wrong and she needs to see a doctor?

[DoesntMatter]

lol, I'm glad I'm a guy, I get the feeling that our orgasms are better

[jayne]

It's not pee. It's the female ejaculation. Your supposed to want to pee.

[Aeradalia]

It's not pee. It's the female ejaculation. Your supposed to want to pee.

Hmm... I wonder if there's anything to back up such claims -- scientifically documented.

[vashti]

Hmm... I wonder if there's anything to back up such claims -- scientifically documented.

Nope. The jury is still out. The best I could find is some studies finding a combination of fluid with the properties of urine plus other proteins...