Married and happy but - Probably not an unusual situation

[Vivensra]

So I'm married, as of September 22 of 09 and I'm very happy. He's honestly an absolute dream and I love him to bits. But I do have thoughts of other men, particularly two, one I'd had a couple times in the past and the other I've known for a couple of years non-romantically. I have actual dreams of these two in sexual situations frequently, one actually being yesterday. I'm wondering why I have such an angling for these two, particularly the one I've had previous relations. I get terribly jubilant when I see him and I ache for him badly, but I would never cheat on my husband. I'm wondering why I feel such desire for somebody else when I love my husband so much and I couldn't be any happier with my decision in a mate?

[Junket]

Because you like to be banged by loads of penises.

Your guess is as good as mine.

[misombra]

eh, that's normal i think.

[Junket]

eh, that's normal i think.

Actually, I would agree with this.

I'm with a wonderful girl, but that doesn't stop me from wanting to bang a complete stranger.

[cewzp4]

I think it's totally normal, as long as it doesn't turn into an obsession or a real desire to leave/cheat on your husband.

When you have been with someone in a committed relationship for a long time, it happens. I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years. I can't help that I think about other people sometimes. And I certainly wouldn't expect him to only think about me.

[vashti]

Fantasy men can be better than real ones because you don't have to wash their dirty underwear or pick up their dirty socks.

[misombra]

...or share a toilet with them.

[Primo]

But I do have thoughts of other men, particularly two, one I'd had a couple times in the past and the other I've known for a couple of years non-romantically. I have actual dreams of these two in sexual situations frequently, one actually being yesterday

This part isn't a big deal.

I get terribly jubilant when I see him and I ache for him badly

This part probably is.

[RepeatingShot]

You were not ready for marriage.

I feel sad for your husband.

[jackyd232]

I don't think it's normal to regularly dream about having sex with other people you know in person. It will more than likely eventually lead to messing around with him.

I suggest distancing yourself before the temptation gets too large.

[MVPlaya]

I get terribly jubilant when I see him and I ache for him badly

Ache how? Want to **** him? Want to kiss him? Want to spend the day with him?

[misombra]

she wants him to hold her down and fuk her hard.

[Primo]

I've heard of the 7 year itch, but the 7 day? :-P

[bluesummer]

I still have sexual/romantic dreams about people from my past, too. Very annoying, because I don't ask them to happen and I love my fiance to death.

It's the time you're thinking about them when you're AWAKE I would be concerned about. Is there something about these men that's different than your hubby?

[Gigabitch]

You're not doing so well with the "forsaking all others" part, are you?

I think you might want to try actively forsaking the other guys. When you think about them, make a conscious choice to stop. Say to yourself, "I am married. I have chosen my man."

You might be a little freaked out about the "till death us do part" thing and that's causing you to entertain scenarios that would destroy your relationship.