sticky work situation

[j1990]

ok long story short, I have a coworker who I have become good friends with. we have spent time with friends and other coworkers together. but recently, the line between friendship and something more has been blurred. you can always find him doing nice things for me, like opening doors or driving me home. we have had intimate situations with each other, but not sex, because I have opposing views to that, and he respects those views.
i dont know if he just sees me as a coworker he can casually see, or if he wants something more. anything intimate we do, he's initiated, even displays of affection like, handholding, hugging, cuddling, he initiates.we generally have good rapport and i know he enjoys my company. we havent talked about anything intimate we've done. and im afraid to bring it up. if i find out that, thats all he's after it would ruin our friendship , and I respect myself and i value both himself and myself too much to have something just casual.

[Bumble_bee]

Has he still been close since you made it clear you views on sex? (did you mean sex before marriage?) if so and he is still showing interest, looks to be a good sign, talk to him, tell him you are enjoying the closeness but want to know where it is leading.......

[flea]

I take it you want to be with this person?

from your post it's a little hard to tell what you want, and maybe this ambiguity is showing in your behaviour around him. what I mean by that is perhaps you're a little hard to read, which may be why he's not making any real moves for fear of rejection/ruining what you have.

[j1990]

yes, I think I want to be with this person. And youre right I am hard to read because of the ambiguity in my actions. its because I'm a little skeptical, Idont want to lay anything out on the line when I'm unsure of his intentions. and yes, i did mean sex before marriage. we still are close and do hang out and have hung out after those times and its never awkward

thanks for the advice! I'm going to take it all to heart Its going to help me understand him & figure out what I should do.

[flea]

you're welcome.

good luck.