What should I do with him?

[elsarita]

My boyfriend of two years broke up with me several weeks ago. I remember we were so crazy in love. Then one day he just breaks it off. His only excuse was " I dont have any feelings for you anymore, my feelings have changed" But we were just making out the day before and we had plans to goto New York and other places together. I thought we were perfectly in love. He said I didn't do anything and it was all him.

Then theres all the phonecalls and texts, he tells me he loves me more than anything and that he wish he could control his feelings and that he wishes we could still be dating? He asks me if I would still give him kisses and hugs and tell him goodnight etc. because he misses it all? Im so confused by it, I tell him why don't we just get back together, but he just says "I dont have any feelings for you anymore, it wouldnt be the same" and then he asks me if I want to cuddle up and a watch a movie some night with him like we're a couple. Why does he want to still do stuff like that if he has no feelings for me anymore? I want him to be my boyfriend not friend, it hurts being friends. He wants to be really good, close friends and hang all the time. I dont see why we can't be boyfriend & girlfriend and hang all the time?

He's being so weird and confusing. Whenever I try to talk to him about it he just says the usual "I dont have any feelings for you anymore" and then trys to tell me jokes and get me to go out and hang out with him. I'm getting fustrated and I want him to just go away if hes gonna pull bull like this, but he begs me not to, says he wants to always be with me and never forget me, that I was so caring and different from other girls? What should I do with him? I still really love him, he didnt cheat on me or anything, he doesnt like anyone else, we never got in a fight or anything? But he is being such an idiot. I haven't hugged or kissed him or anything since the breakup, I kind of ignore his texts and calls too, he's getting real mad about it. I feel kinda bad, he wants us to go hang out in the park for the day then makeout and watch a movie in bed. I still love him and it sounded good to me, so I agreed to it. Should I have? Ugh, what in the world should I do with him, he is really putting my life in the dumps.

[chrisy]

"I remember we were so crazy in love."

Your ex-boyfriend's current behavior and words indicate that it was you who were so crazy in love but he was not. He sounds very manipulative. If you want your emotions to be played with - continue to see him. If you want peace - ignore him.

[Nice Lover Boy]

I would leave him alone and reject his invitations. This guys does not know what he wants.
Maybe all he wants are the hugs and kisses, but if that is not enough for you then ignore his invitations.

[no identity]

Go no contact, it'll end up being the best for you! Start to heal yourself, he doesn't know what he wants.