What would you do?

**Justa** · 10-12-09, 09:28 PM

Hello, this is also my first post, nice to be here.

Basically I have a problem and would like to hear what you women think.

My girlfriend of two years has just decided she wants a few piercings on her face. Her nose and the middle part of her ear on both sides is what she wants done.

Odd thing is she isnt the kind of girl to do this, and has never shown previous interest in such things.

She is 21 and I thought past this kind of thing, not that im implying there is a specific age group that does this, but it doesn't suit her and she isnt like this.

Anyway my problem is, I really don't want her to do this, she is beautiful the way she is and I know I wont find her as attractive with all this metal in her face.

Its just personal preference but I don't like piercings in what I consider odd places.

I have spoken to her about it and she it adamant on getting them, what I can I do if I really dont find them nice, and I do find them off putting.

I have never asked anything of her appearance before, I literally havnt. So she may not take me seriously I think.

Anyway I need some advice, preferably from a womens point of veiw, but men are welcome too.

Thanks in advance for any help

**Gigabitch** · 10-12-09, 10:24 PM

She's only just 21- she's still trying to figure out what "kind of girl" she is. I'm not a fan of facial piercings, myself, but I don't think it's any of your business what she does to her own face.

**Justa** · 10-12-09, 10:31 PM

I know that's how I feel, I never tell her what to do, and she has always been so supportive of me and my endeavours, but I really dont find them attractive in any way, very much the opposite.

Is there any nice sounding way of firmly saying no?

**Perryville** · 10-12-09, 10:46 PM

Dude, even though you don't find them attractive, it is her choice and you can either go with it or attempt to "put your foot down", but then what if she does it anyway? Then what will you do? Break up? You should accept her as she accepts you, warts and all.

**Perryville** · 10-12-09, 10:48 PM

BTW, you're not her boss, you're her BF.

**vashti** · 10-12-09, 10:49 PM

Like it or not, a certain segment of the population will be offput by facial piercings and tattoos. She has a right to do what she wants to her face, and you have a right to not want a girlfriend that looks like that. It doesn't make either of you "bad" - just maybe not a match.

For the record, I am not a fan of facial piercings, either.

**Perryville** · 10-12-09, 10:59 PM

Really this has nothing to do with the piercings as such, but is more about your ability to control your GF. What if this was a new hairstyle, or a change wardrobe? Would you be as upset? Piercings can and will close with time and lack of use. This is nothing permanent, so you should butt out and either leave her alone about it or be a controlling weenie, and lose her, because you appear weak.

**vashti** · 10-12-09, 11:03 PM

Actually, they DON'T necessarily close up, and minimally, there will always be a little scar.

**Perryville** · 10-12-09, 11:14 PM

OK Vash, yes they do leave a little scar or spot, but not noticeable. The real point here is the guy's desire to control his GF.

**vashti** · 10-12-09, 11:27 PM

Would it be controlling then, if a guy were to say he didn't like the idea of his girlfriend gaining 50 pounds? After all, it is HER body...

**qwertz** · 10-12-09, 11:28 PM

Just be thankful its piercings and not tattoo's

**Perryville** · 10-12-09, 11:36 PM

Vash, it's not whether he likes it or not, it's whether he tries to control her behavior or not. See the difference?........Qwert, if it were tats like yours, on a body like you've got, I would NEVER, EVER, complain.

**vashti** · 10-12-09, 11:40 PM

As I said, she has a right to do it, and he has a right to find someone who appeals more to his visual taste.

**Perryville** · 10-12-09, 11:42 PM

Or maybe he can man-up and accept her for how she is?

**qwertz** · 10-12-09, 11:53 PM

Originally Posted by Perryville

Vash, it's not whether he likes it or not, it's whether he tries to control her behavior or not. See the difference?........Qwert, if it were tats like yours, on a body like you've got, I would NEVER, EVER, complain.

haha thanks.

When I had the back done, my bf was totally against it, he really didnt like tattoo's and kept trying to talk me out of such a big one.

It annoyed me cause why should i not get it done just to please him? The next thing would be 'i dont like your hair colour' or 'i dont like the outfit your wearing'

You manage to stop her getting these done, then where does it end?

All you can do is make your feelings known and its up to her to decide whether she wants to go ahead with them.
Personnally i dont see the problem..nose piercings arent that obvious anyway.

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