Should I ignore him? to make hime want me more!

[Goldi]

Hallo All,

I know this guy from the french course we take together. I gave him my facebook account. He is really funny and popular in the course.

I don't talk to him much in the course because there is no chance to.
He sent me some messages in facebook so I know he likes me.

Now the course has ended and he sent me a message on friday saying he wants to go out with me!!!

Actually I like him, but I think it is too early for him to ask me out. So I don't want to go, not to sound desperate and also don't want to lose him forever if I refused by saying I am busy.

Should I simply ignore the message, so I can make him chase me more, because anyhow we will meet after a month in another spanish course.

What Do you think?!! please help!

[davidtorres]

if you dont go then you lose him. your not the only girl in the world.
why would a guy chase you if he can just find another girl that will not make him go thru your b.s.?

if you want him then stop your game.

[TheWizard]

your best action if you don't want to do anything is tell him you're busy but reciprocate with a counter offer. Like the following week or something.

Generally speaking if you shoot this down now you won't get another chance with him unless he was really smitten.

[girl68]

You go or you're a total tool of a girl.

A boy asks a girl out she says hmmm "I'm going to play little miss hard-to-get" so I'll say no thanks. Next day, a different girl from his math class was asked out by him, she said yes.

[starbuck]

He asked you out on a date. How more into you does he have to be? Good lord.

Do you really want to start out this relationship with a possible future boyfriend or husband by manipulating and toying with him? If you end up with him, hopefully he'll never find out you are playing with him.

Be honest and go out with him. Games are for little girls and boys.

[Heratriumphant]

What are you reading the damn Rules?

You like him, he asked you out, so go!

Drop the pathetic games.

[Goldi]

Thanks for all replies.

I decided not to send him a reply. (I am not sure if I want him as a friend or as a boyfriend yet)

BUT:

I sent him an invitation to be me neighbour in Farmville (a game) and I sent him a gift in the game.

Is it enough?!! What is he thinking now?!!

The problem he didn't reply to the invitation although I know he saw it.

Why did he do that?!!!

[Chupacabras]

Really?

He sees you maneuvering him into the friend zone and he wants nothing to do with it. Quit with the stupid games; of course you don't know if you want him as a friend or a boyfriend, you haven't gone on a date where it's just you two with a romantic undertone.

I get that you're young so here's some advice that will help you throughout your life: men do not like to be manipulated, if they catch wind of it early they'll see it as a red flag and will avoid dating you like the plague.

[lahnnabell]

He probably thought the invitation was lame. Really, girl? Farmville? That's the most vague "I sort of like you" message I've ever heard of. He's probably confused.

[girl68]

He's already added another girl on facebook who he likes. You are a lost cause.

[starbuck]

I agree Chupa, the OP sounds really young... highschool maybe.

Goldi, why not just go out with him? It's just a date.

If you're not sure about him, that's probably the best way to find out!

You're making this much more complicated than it needs to be.

[Peter Pry]

Thanks for all replies.

I decided not to send him a reply. (I am not sure if I want him as a friend or as a boyfriend yet)

BUT:

I sent him an invitation to be me neighbour in Farmville (a game) and I sent him a gift in the game.

Good god! You want to go out with him and your response is to invite him to Farmville??? What is wrong with you?

Is it enough?!! What is he thinking now?!!

No. He is insulted and thinks you're completely uninterested.

The problem he didn't reply to the invitation although I know he saw it.

Why did he do that?!!!

He ignored you because you ignored him, genius.

Stop playing these stupid games if you don't want to end up as a very lonely person.

[nicolaheaven]

do not ignore him as he will see that as you not being interested. Tell him the truth from the start so he has hope and waits for you. If he dosen't then he is not worth it in the long run.

[Cbrider]

I wish this guy could read what you wrote so he could know that you're not worth his time.

Don't breed.

[Heratriumphant]

Dude, she invited him to farmville! He HAS to know she's not worth his time.