Hi.
I'm hoping someone here can help me. I'm a 21 year old female, never been in a relationship.
There's a customer who is my age, and over the last 6 months or so, I've developed a pretty serious crush.
He had a girlfriend up until a few weeks ago, but that apparently ended.
He's initiated conversation at work (eg. while I'm facing away from him, giving him an opportunity to walk past if he's just being nice when I see him) and I've watched him watch me (through periferals) until I make eye contact, at which point he smiles and asks how I'm doing.
Last Thursday, he came in and the following happened:
Him: What's new?
Me: (fearfearnervousvomitomgfear) OHnotmuchhow'boutyou?
Him: Oh, I'm finished school for a while, so I have more free time, hopefully I'll be able to come into the store more often. (said while browsing items in the front counters)
Me: (somesort of lame response)
So, I went home that night and relayed the conversation with my roommate, because I don't speak dude, but figured there wasn't any other way to interpret "I'll be in more often".
She told me to check his status, and that's when we found out he's single.
Sunday night, I sent the following:
"So, if you're bored on Monday, my friends and I go out to (karaoke bar) because we love to listen to bad renditions of the Backstreet Boys. Seriously though, we're always looking for new people, give me a shout if you're interested. (Cell number here)"
Monday came and went, and I didn't hear anything. I figured, okay, he's not interested, a girl can take a hint. Then, I find out that he was in the store Monday, not sure about Tues, and came in Wed and Thurs, both days I was OH SO MATURE and pretended not to see him, because I thought, seriously dude, you blow me off COMPLETELY and then come into my store EVERY DAY?
Numerous people have said that he 'clearly wanted to talk' and to 'give him a chance'.
Today when he came in, he waved and smiled, (I couldn't hide in my job and pretend not to see him, heh) and then we both sort of did an awkward "I'm going to walk around the store now" thing. I kept working and later on he walked down the aisle I was in and chatted, and kept coming back around my area when we were finished talking.
I seriously don't know how to read this guy.
In person, he seems to be leaning on the interested side, but I keep thinking he'd at least have responded that he was busy, had he read the message, or would have tried to interact via Facebook if he were.
My roommate thinks he may have deleted the message without reading it? My coworkers say he's really shy?
On the plus side, I no longer feel the automatic, debilitating nervousness after two days of being angry at myself/him... I probably have the best chance of being myself around him now.
Sorry for the novel, here's a synopsis:
tl;dr: mixed signals from a guy - he initiates conversation in person and I've caught him staring, but completely ignores online/outside methods of communication