Originally Posted by
Spitfire01
Hi, I would like to talk about the 'hysteric' moments my girlfriend has sometimes. Another one just occured, and I would like some insights.
Here's the situation. My gf was at home today preparing classes for tomorrow (she has internship at school once a week), which already makes her quite nervous as I know. Round noon she calls me, while I'm out for lunch, to say that the internet stopped working. She started panicking that she couldn't finish her work and didn't know what to do. She told me to call the ISP. I replied I didn't have the number, and asked why she couldn't go there, since the shop is around the corner. Ofcourse she replied she didn't want to go there and she said I should call. I tried some numbers she found on the bill, and had no success calling them. Then she started screaming at me that I should find the number, asking why I didnt have such an important number in my cellphone, basically making it my fault. The culprit was probably the guy wiping the snow on our roof (we have an internet antenna on the roof). I started getting slightly pissed, since it's not my fault at all. I told her that if we couldn't reach them, she could go to her friends place, or to the library to use internet. This she didn't want either, I should call the ISP, I should call informations to get the number, or whatever it took. There was no reasoning with her. Back at work i searched the internet but didnt immediately find the correct number, and in the mean time I was interrupted at work 10 times cos she kept calling me, panicking. She even said a few times that she was gonna kill herself (!), after which ending the conversation. At such moments I really am wondering why she can't be grownup and just look for an alternative (such as going to that friend). It's apparently better to yell at me, and then expecting help ... My blood starts boiling at such times ... It's even more frustrating when such a thing happens on the phone, which has happenened several times before.
In the end I managed to call the shop, receiving word that they prolly wouldnt be able to come today. While browsing the website I found of them, I also noticed that I've been paying too much for like half a year, due to some stupid formality. I mentioned it to my gf, and she said that 'she told me' several months back. I replied I didnt hear her say, or I mustve misunderstood. She then said I prolly didnt listen to her or I only listen to my '****ing family and friends'. I really got pissed then (not the first time she says something like that), and slammed down the phone. A bit later we talked again, and she said the same thing again, after which I just shut down my phone, after texting her that I shouldnt be taking such insults after trying to help her.
So what about this, what should I do in such situations? If i try to talk reasonably, this doesnt work. If i ignore her, she gets even more pissed! Basically in such state no reason will calm her, and she can say the most aweful things.