Okay, It has been 7 days since I got the "she needs to work on herself" talk with my girlfriend of 2 years. We had a decent talk and seemed to leave on good terms. She still wanted to be friends after this (we were very involved in each others lives) so we have many mutual friends. This is no problem for me, I'm an adult.
Like I said its been 7 days since the talk, we have had no contact with each other at all. She did come to my house (while I was at work) and picked up a bunch of her stuff, not all, but most.
I am doing okay (not to upset anymore) but I do have a few worries...I don't know how to react when/if I see her out. If she was alone, no big deal. I do have a very strong gut feeling that she will be out with a guy that her and I had met the weekend before we broke up...This would not be good. How do you deal with this?
We met this guy out at the bar while we were celebrating my room mates birthday. My girlfriend had reconized him for he was one of her younger brothers friends. We met and proceeded to another bar as a group. We had barely gotten our drinks when i look over my shoulder to see our new friend beating the crap out of some dude. Being myself, i rush to break up this fight (so the security doesnt get ahold of him) and get him outside. When we get outside i ask him, "man, what was that about?" he told me that was one of his friends that stole his girlfriend. We ended up going to another bar Where the exact same thing happened, same guys.(When they kicked us out they also kicked the guy he was fighting with out and we just happened to go to the same bar)
My girlfriend spent the rest of the night consoling him. I was less then happy. (This guy starts 2 fights, gets us kicked out of 2 bars, and he is the victim????) So i say to her, its his own fault, let him cry about it. She wasnt happy with me.
(brace yourselves, it moves fast now) The next night we go for a drive to talk about things, it goes well, we fool around yada yada yada. The next day i call her to go to dinner, she doesnt answer for 2 hours. She finally picks up the phone, I ask "what are you doing" she replies " going to have dinner with B****" (the ultimate fighter that cant control himself) I said Ahhhhhhh.........okay, and we got off the phone. Long story short, she spends the night at his house (suposedly nothing happened) The next day we are having the talk.........I dont get it.