Confused....

[n4mele5s]

Due to my smoking habits, my ex girlfriend decided to ask me for my pack of cigarettes to count how many I smoked in a day. As I was very paranoid with the situation, I lied to her about throwing away my pack of cigarettes. Unfortunately, she found out and we made an argument about the situation for two nights. I understand that what I say was wrong and I tried to do things to make it up to her by cutting down completely. Afterward, she started picking little things out of me and saying that I do not listen to her and etc.

A week later, she decided to break up with me over the phone without trying to work things out or even considering giving me a second chance to change. The next day, I was very depressed and so I called her bestfriend to go out for drinks because I know that her bestfriend was not busy that day. She agreed on meeting up with me but she said that my ex-girlfriend is also coming to join me and her for food and drinks.

When we met up, my ex-girlfriend decided to type a message on her phone and gave it to her bestfriend to read it. Her bestfriend asked her some questions such as "Is this what you wanted? Are you sure?". Her reply was "yes this is what I wanted". She then took the phone and gave it to me to read it and it said "here's a second chance but we are going on a break first for a week. During the week break, she decided to call me every night and talk to me on the phone and she also decided to come visit me on Thursday. However, after having fun with her for the whole day, she decided to tell me that shes confused of what she wants. Next day, she continued on with that same sentence after spending the night with her at the mall.

Next week, we met up and had lunch but she tried to get away from me but at the same time she decided to get close to me as well by kissing me goodbye when I have to leave. As I was well aware of the situation, I tried to do things like going to visit her and brought her food but she showed no appreciation. Few days later, she called me again and said to break up and told me to sleep on it and she will call me the next day.

After thinking about it the whole night, I decided to give her the space and not pick up the phone calls. Then, the next day she decided to call me 15 times over a time frame of 8 hours trying to find me. A few days later, I called her and asked her if she need anything and she told me that she was lonely and she just wants to talk to me on the phone. After talking to her till 5 am in the morning, she decided to call me back 10 hours later and to tell me that "we are never getting back together ever again cause she doesn't feel connected with me at all". This completely broke my heart after hearing that, then I decided to calm down and call her to tell her we can still be friends.

Her next action was to block me off of msn messenger. After talking to her friends about the situation, they agreed that I needed some answers due to her actions. So on Saturday, they got me that opportunity but I was busy on the day she selected to meet up and see her. I called her and asked her to change it but she said no and that she said we can get it over with over the phone.

So I asked her a few questions:

1) Why did you break up with me? She replied by saying that I was arrogant and that I get mad at little things.

2) How are you feeling? She said that she feels fine cause she doesn't feel any connection with me

3) What did Thursday meant to you during the break?
It was just in the mood nick, don't think too much about it.


Afterward, she decided to tell me that I need more time to think about it and she does not but when she is ready to talk to me she will call me.

Few days later, she decided to delete me off of everything and cut off all ties with me. So a week later, I called her and asked her what she wanted and she replied with telling me that she doesnt want me to be in her life ever again cause she doesn't have the physical and emotional attraction for me.

Due to some unexpected events, I gotten drunk and I yelled at her guy friend. He decided to call her and ask her to meet up with me. She agreed on Thursday but she will select the time for the meeting. Few minutes later, she decided to call back and said why do I want to meet her and that she made it clear that she doesn't want to see me period.

During the whole conversation, she said that she lied regarding to the stuff she said on saturday so that I could get off of her back. She also said that I was a rebound after a few minutes I asked her the question "Am I the rebound?" and that she still has attraction for her ex. All in all, she made very harsh comments as well such as, "go to hell", "my ex never lied to me and you lied to me".

As I tried to move on, she started to do things like unblocking me from msn then blocking me again, several times. The last time she did it, she put on her msn name "nick u are an idoit". As I asked the friend, he said that she wants you to be out of your life and that I should delete her and forget about her. With my understanding, if you want someone to be other of your life, you don't try to contact them or even unblock and block them. Few days ago, she called me by surprise and I ignored the phone call. About 10 to 20 minutes later, she sent me an email telling me her reason for the call that she doesn't owe me $60 but she only owes me $10. It is funny how she normally tells her friends to tell me stuff but this time she calls me to tell me that.

That is the end of my story, I don't know what do in this situation and that I understand that Three months is not a long time but what I felt from her was more than what she said as a rebound.

What do you guy think of the situation? What do you guys think I should do and of course I still do have feelings for her but i dont know what to do?

Please help!!!

[SamFrmMelbourne]

You lied to her about the packs of cigarette, yes, it was wrong. But was it even worth breaking up for? No! If one day you did another minor mistake such as forgetting to throw the trash or wash dishes, she would use it for the very same purpose! She was using that as a justification for the loss of her feelings to you and she accused you of being the bad guy and claimed herself a victim to deal with her own guilt. It's a self-defense mechanism that really reveals her immaturity. If you were the rebound guy, wasn't you the victim and not her?

The fact that it happened so early in the relationship is something you should be grateful for. Forget about her, go for no contact, and move on with your life.

[IncognitoSir]

She has NO idea what she wants man. She's hot then she's cold, up and then down. Not to mention she's a super drama queen. Just do yourself a favor and move on. It doesn't look like she'll ever stop[ playing games with you so why bother.

[n4mele5s]

Thanks guys, I was trying to move on but the thing is that her little actions and stuff keep on making me remembering it.

Its funny about the unblock and blocking thing but what do u guys think about ?

[shheadz]

Listen, you need to back off for a little while. You're getting yourself dizzy analyzing her actions. Take a deep breath, and chill out. You should really be asking yourself why you'd want to be with such a crazy immature b!tch.

[n4mele5s]

Ya I did back off for a while. It was actually trying to get out of her life but she couldnt get out of mine. For example, shes unblocking and blocking me cause she wants me to be out of her life while ive already did. She wants me to forget bout her but she still does the unblock and blocking thing.

Ive already blocked her along time ago. I just realize that her name changed when i was searching for a friend.