19 year old and 30 year old....

[mitch23]

O.k, So i'll give you a little back ground, I'm 19, I've always been a mass sexual diviet wanting to do things that 99.9 percent of the population would look down on (Not pedophilia), I meet a 30 year old girl through work who's into ALL the same DIRTY things i'm into (Who happens to be ABSOLUTELY stunning), We meet up about 6 months ago one night, For sex, After that about 1 month in i found myself living at her house, We have been official, Came out to everyone although the age gap, We didn't care...

Of course the relationship started just as sex but as time went on we got REALLY serious, We meet each others family, Going away together, Saying the L word, The whole 9 yards, I was even babysitting her kids (She has 2 kids, 3 and 6, Witch i forgot to mention.)

Some time last week she had a break down telling me how she doesn't spent enough time with her kids or pay them enough attention when I'm with her cause all she wants to do is be with me or sleep in all day so we can hold each other, She broke it off...

Now it's about a week later, We have still been talking on and off, I REALLY think i do love this girl, Cause of her kids witch i also care for, Should i just let this go or should i try to talk to her about it?, I need advise from a women from the outside....

My mum has had a chronic stalker for the past 5 years so the last thing i want to do as well is be labeled some sort of Sudo freak stalker, Even tho i've only called her like twice in the last week i just feel like i'm bugging her by doing that even tho we talk for ages on the phone when we do talk and all is positive.

Do you think i could be in love or have i just "Done my nuts" over her?

[1337lizard]

I really want to make a joke about the Cougars, but this is serious business. Since it's such an unusual relationship it's difficult to give advice.

I will say though that you both moved really fast. I think what you should do now is give it some time, just relax, reflect, let her do the same, and then talk to her when you know exactly how you feel and exactly what you want.

[sAsAk1]

I think I agree with lizard, just let her breathe a bit and then tell her the truth and how you feel and even though you went fast that you don't regret it. Tell her maybe how that you don't want something like that to get in the way and that you can work things out with the kids by making a schedule and not always being with her. Like you MAKE time for her and the kids where you are out of the picture for just a little while. This way you can stay with her while she still has time for her kids.

Just have a good talk with her I'm sure you can work it out.

I don't know about the age gap, you're a bit young to know what you want, but I'm not the one to discriminate on age. Go with your heart.

[Gigabitch]

Moving you in and letting you get attached to her kids and then tossing you out was really irresponsible of her.

I think you might be the adult in this situation.

I doubt she's going to somehow morph into the person she wants to be for her kids while remaining the sexy cougar you've been entangled with. I would just call it done and walk away.

[mitch23]

Just updating you all, I got fairly intoxicated last night, Messaged her 10 thousand times, In the morning, I texted to say sorry and that i'm still hung up on her and that i will not be contacting her at all for a while to distance myself, Wished her and the kids all the best and i think it's time i move on.....

Only thing is now after I've lived out all my fantasy's with her it's going to be HARD to find another girl to do the same crazy stuff.

How many girls out there are actually into and enjoy fisting? (Not trying to be funny, I really want to know.)

[vashti]

How many girls out there are actually into and enjoy fisting? (Not trying to be funny, I really want to know.)

Very few, I think. Why are YOU into it? I mean, what's in it for you?

[Lulu]

I'm sorry....but what the #$% is fisting?! Do I want to know......

[vashti]

I'm sorry....but what the #$% is fisting?! Do I want to know......

I seriously doubt you do.

[1337lizard]

Very few, I think. Why are YOU into it? I mean, what's in it for you?

Well Vashti, I'm going to say that sex is primarily mental, not physical. Different positions and outfits might turn someone on more than another simply because of the way a guy or girl's contours look in that particular position. Or like how a lot of girls love to be on top because they like to be in control. That's not something physical, that's purely mental. I think it's probably the same sort of deal for mitch23. I would elaborate, but I think I got my point across already.

Lulu, it's exactly what it sounds like. pm if you can't sleep at night not knowing what it is lol.

[all alone]

I'm sorry....but what the #$% is fisting?! Do I want to know......

Like it or not... This occurs when a man (or woman i guess), form their hand into a first and insert it fully into a woman's yoo-hoo.

AKA: the dreaded fist

[Lulu]

Why would you WANT to have sex with someone if you could fit a fist in it?? So I've got to know, Mitch23- is she fisting you or are you fisting her??

[Gigabitch]

Craigslist exists for people like you. You can find plenty of people to engage in your kinks without dragging kids into the relationship. Join a B&D club or something. Just don't try to make the next fisting enthusiast into a real girlfriend. It doesn't work.

[davidtorres]

move on bro. you're young. lol you need to find girls that are the same age as you.

[girl68]

How many girls out there are actually into and enjoy fisting? (Not trying to be funny, I really want to know.)

NO god damn way in hell. I work hard to keep my vagina NOT streched out. For someone to get their rocks off my stretching my lady business out with a fist is a big hell no. My vagina will be stretched when I give birth and not a moment before then.

But some are willing if you've found one you can find another...

[mitch23]

Update if anyone cares.....

Well, I started seeing her again just as friends with benefits and seeing her about 3 nights a week, We where still in love but than, She became a very cruel and inconsiderate of my feelings, Started getting drunk and calling my house phone and messaging my messaging my mother at 3-4 AM in the morning, Got sick of been the "boy" in the relationship and now i feel nothing for her, When i go over there for sex, It makes me VERY uncomfortable now, Knowing that I'm going to be gone sooner or later as i will find someone else in time and stop seeing her, So will she and i would disappear on the kids, I've build a good relationship with them over the last year, I care about them and so that's why I've decided to faze it out, Still go see them every now and than but leave longer and longer gaps, So far it's been a week and a half..........