I thought I was over my last ex. After months of having friends tell me things like, "Dude, she's a bitch, I would have dumped her sooner," I finally started to listen and move on.
Then practically out of nowhere, she shows up in one of my dreams! At my grandparents house! She's in the study, ****ing my former friend!
Now I'm having occasional depressive thoughts about her. They just pop up at inopportune times and ruin my mood. It would help if I could meet another girl who made me feel the same way, but having just moved to this new city, that's not happening very fast. I haven't met many friends, yet, so I get lonely, and that probably aggravates the problem.
If anybody cares, I'm going to start documenting my obsessive thoughts, here, with the hope that it will release them. I'm hoping it will be healthier than my previous method of getting really hammered.
I think a lot my trouble comes from my tendency to assume fault: I always try to figure out what I did wrong in these situations. Even if the fault was more with them, I will worry about how I could have better made her problem clear to her. On the bright side, this constantly improves my quality as a boyfriend, as I'm pretty fair about how I analyze these things. As an experienced sufferer of OCD, I'm aware enough of my thought processes to not let them control my behavior unduly. On the other hand, the effort it takes to do so is straining and I am becoming overwhelmed and sad.