Need help pls

[crzyscoot]

Hi there my name is Karl,me and my wife have been together for 7 years will be 8 in june.Could what i sa be the 7 year itch idk and am not sure what to do right now.back in Oct of 09 i caught my wife talking to a guy on the net.After about a month we got back together when she seen i had someone else and came cryin begging me to get back with her.She called the guy in front of me told him to leave her alone she wanted me and wanted to work things out.So all was well with us untill a few weeks back.i was out plowing snow bust my ass for us.I could tell something changed with us so i went to myspace and added the guy from oct on her name.well he added me then i seen she had another name sending him stuff sayin she misses him no matter what happenes he will have a place in her heart.So i bring it up and she say she called him she came across him number to see just how he was doing.I asked her why she said she was bored and the kids was asleep for the night.So ive been tryin to work this out but she keeps sayin its not about him or any1 its how i act.She also told me if i didnt find out we would still be together lalalala.So her and the kids came over and stayed the night last night she was on the pc and i installed a keylogger on here.I went to bed i was tired from work about 4 hours b4 she did.So when i woke up i took a look on the pc.I came across a aol name that had sent nude pics of my wife to other guys and some other nude guy pics on there.She told me she wasnt the only 1 with the password and stuff said 2 of her friends must have sent them out of her cause they all tlak on the name.That all the pics was for me and she sent them to that name so the kids wouldnt see them on the pc.


Also i must say this just started in oct of last year.Right when her friend moved back up here from a different state.And yes her friend hates me caus ei speak my mind and tell it how its is.So what should i do and how should i do it.I also dont want to lose her or my marriage?

tyvm
KArl

[maximus242]

Bottom line, you have to add some serious fire back into your relationship. Your wife is reaching out to other men to get something she isnt from you, you have to turn her on, drive her wild and make her think about you from morning till night when you get home. Then you will have no problems. Getting mad, arguing and trying to see if shes cheating will accomplish nothing. Its not fixing the root of the problem, which is your guys relationship. You have to make her feel like she is a princess waiting for her handsome dashing prince. You have to capture her imagination and bring her back to loving you again. You have to become a great lover again. Make her feeling like a woman again, make her feel like shes falling in love for the first time all over again. You have to capture her emotions and win her with love not fighting.

I was close friends with a woman who was right in the middle of cheating on her husband and eventually left him for another man. The main reason? She didnt love him anymore. Not saying thats your case. Mainly, her husband had lost his sense of masculinity. Her new boyfriend was very masculine. I know you probably dont want to hear this but if you want to keep your wife, you have to be the man and make her feel like a woman.

[crzyscoot]

K ty for the reply.How could 1 in my place add fire back into this.What are some of the ways to go about this.I mean i have already go cards flowers.Or is that the wrong way to go about this.Not really sure cause i have never been here before.

[Gigabitch]

If you wife wanted to work it out she'd be working on it. Instead, she's whoring around the net like some teenager. She's got kids, for God's sake.

Have a serious talk with her and ask her what it's going to take to get her committed to your marriage. I strongly suggest getting a counselor involved. Her behavior isn't just about how you act, whatever that means. She is 100% responsible for doing what she's doing. Even if you're a terrible husband, the way to deal with that is not by having sleazy internet encounters with random people.

[crzyscoot]

O well i tlaked to her alittle last night it turned into a fight.All she said it wasnt bout him lalala it was how i turned this into how i acted when i found out and stuff.So is there any hope in saving this or should i let her go to see its not always better on the other side.

CS