He won't kiss me?

[sim191]

Hi all,
I recently started dating this boy who I have been friends with for a while. He is scared of relationships and he worries about doing things such as holding hands and kissing. Then he regrets not doing these things and gets even more nervous. It is like a vicious circle.
I spoke to him about this and he will now hold my hand and hug me but he still won't kiss me. I'm really starting to fall in love with him and I don't think he realises how much this is getting me down.
What should I do??
Any suggestions
Thank you
Sim191

[Gigabitch]

Revise your expectations. He could panic and flee at any moment. Don't let yourself fall for him too hard.

[OneQuestion]

how old are you? Perhaps he is nervious as you might be the first girl who has shown interest in him. I know when I was younger I was more scared than anything. Not really scared of the girls or a girlfriend, more scared that I would act stupid, do something wrong, etc.

Could be he is just nervious. If he hangs out with you all the time, has fun with you, and appears to like you - then continue, at least for a while, to give him some time and a chance to come around.

Also, keep showing him love. He may be insecure and scared like I said. And if you just keep showing him you like him(not really by saying, "I like you") just by hanging out, cuddling while watching TV/movie(definetely cuddle!), communicating, etc.

Good luck!

[ftm]

I'm wish OneQuestion on this one. How old are you guys? My first girlfriend had to practically beg me to kiss her. Before I finally did, there were times where she basically made it very clear she wanted me to and I was too scared to do it. I didn't want to "do it wrong." Now, I was 13 at the time, so of course I thought every mistake was the end of the world. If I only knew how many times I would be "doing it wrong" in the following years!

Young guys are really, REALLY shy a lot of the time. Just as girls' self-image is influences by the media, so it is with men. Imagine a young, inexperienced guy surrounded by all these images of uber-masculine, sex-oozing near-Gods. It's difficult to imaging living up to it.

My second question would be one of religion: Is he and/or his family very religious? There may be a shame issue here, which can also be hard to overcome.

Just make him comfortable and don't pressure him, but remind him gently that you want it and that he can't do a "bad" job.