Should I consider this a date?

[lifesabitch]

Or as two friends hanging out..

Background:
There's this girl I knew way back when in HS (almost 10 years ago) and we've kind of been in contact since then. This girl was like a major crush I had back in the day, and we were good friends but never dated. So recently we've been talking some more, and more on the phone than through e-mail as it was before.

And now I am gonna be in an area about an hour from where she lives, visiting some relatives. I told her this and she said we should "hang out" on Tuesday to which I said sure. I asked what she wanted to do, and her response was dinner and a movie, and then some bar and grill place to end off the night. So I wondered if I should take that as a date or not?

And that question meaning a lot of things. Should I pay for any of her stuff? Would it be a bad idea to be flirty? Should I give her a goodnight kiss? I really don't know how to approach this situation at all.

[VincenzoG91]

Although I try not to label a situation as a date unless one of the two people involved explicitly used the word "date," this situation does sound like a date. "Dinner and a movie" is practically a generic description of a date.

So here's how I would handle it if I were in your shoes:

Offer to pay, but don't adamantly insist on paying. If she lets you pay, that moves this evening into more definite date territory. And try out a mildly flirty remark, and see how that goes over. If she doesn't react badly and doesn't suddenly mention a boyfriend or fiance, keep going with the flirting. If the evening does include a trip to the bar towards the end, see how she acts after a drink or two. Alcohol isn't a truth serum, but it is harder to keep reactions and agendas hidden when drinking. Of course, that cuts both ways, so you might blurt something out. Anyway, if the flirting has gone well, you might try moving on to touching at the bar. Like touch her hand lightly when you say something funny. If she touches you back, that's a good sign. If you play your cards right, you might end up going back to her place, and you should know what to do from there. At the very least, try to get her to let you escort her home, and then try for the kiss there, but only if the flirting has been going okay.

[lifesabitch]

Yeah, it's not really the get together itself that i'm thinking had date implications but rather her suggestion of what we should do. I just hope I don't go into it with "date" mentality and then get disappointed in the end.

[nasstil2]

not actualy a date but the ealier the beter for u guys to open up or i smel hearrrt break