Fancying a friend

[magikpumpkin]

Hey everyone.

This must've happened to everyone at some point. Have you ever found urself starting to really fancy one of your best friends? & i mean not a friend u've just made a long term one?

Well this is my story (& it's gonna b long cos i always write loads, soz)
rite now i feel im that certain point with one of my female friends, who i've become fairly close to in the last month or so. I've known her technically since yr 8 (so that's about 13? i think). We got to know each other around then on an exchange in Germany but then drifted apart through the latter years of school. Now we've been at the same college for a year the friendship's just grown and grown... so, im wonderin how close are we going to get?

Y'know the stage before you start going out or dating someone where you're stupidly fond of each other and feel really compatible?

It feels like the stage just before that.

Recently i think we've come a bit too close to each other and bounced off a little and now ive found im thinking about her way more than any friend would. We have really personal discussion about people and careers and love and the future and random stuff so we're really close. Not too sure where this sentence is going. ok , but you see how i feel and how the situation is.

Basically asking her might mess up our friendship, and that's something i desperatly don't want to do, but then at the same time our friendship's surrounded by mystery a little as to how much we like each other, as friend or something more?

Any one had this situation? If so what did u do bout it? what were the consequences etc etc. (soz it was so long)

[crEA-tEch]

I've never really had that kinda of situation before, but I know people who have.

Break it to her gently.. say something like "We've been friends for ages... do you ever wonder what it'd be like if we were something more?".

Don't be blantant about it. If you do, THEN it has a chance of ruining the friendship.

Hope this helps,
Nick

[KirstyM]

I had a similar situation with one of my friends. He sort of brought the subject up with me but in our case we were on the same wavelength and wanted the same thing so it worked out. Try talking to her. At worst itll be a bit awkward for awhile but if she's not interested just sort of laugh it off and move on, it shouldnt affect a good friendship negatively.

[magikpumpkin]

hey cheers for replying.

im gonna bite the bullet and mention it tommorow when we both go to town on a free period during college, probably towards the end of the time we have together so if she doesn't want anything more than friendship it won't b all awkward for the whole hour. Friendship feels strange being this close. I think it's worth asking, tho i don't quite know how to go about it: either mention it by-the-by as crEA-TEch said or whether to stop her and tell her straight out how i feel like KirstyM is suggesting.

What do you think? can somone pls reply soon before tommorow if possible!!

[Prodigal]

Well, I'll pitch my two cents and go with crea-tech's idea. I think that kind of approach is pretty slick, plus it is a bit discreet. It might be a little different if you overloaded her. In any way, good luck to you! Just try not to be too down if she doesn't feel the same way, though. Sometimes you think you see all the signs but it really isn't because she is just comfortable with you. It's tough trying to tell when it's a friend that you're really close to, so I think you're doing the right thing.

[Frebbiezadyke]

that seems right out of a movie

[magikpumpkin]

Alrite guys bit of an update.

Wednesday was fairly good for me. Can ya guess why?....

Well it was coming towards the end of that free period we have together and we were walking bk to college. I wasn't gonna let the chance go without saying something so i asked her about if she thought we'd be anything more than friends and she felt the same way, and has for quite a while it appears. KOOL!! Best 2 minutes of my month that. She had to go to a lesson tho so i didn't get to chat to her till the end of the day.

Weird thing is the border's been crossed now it's kinda strange cos now we're different alone and with friends we act as just good mates, i don't know about her but im findin it a bit frustrating that we've confessed we feel about each other and we haven't gone newhere about it!! tho it is only 2 days since then so i am jumping-the-gun a bit.

Neway there's a meal tonite we're both goin to cos it's our mate's b'day so shoud b fun, mite b added succes or a disaster - her ex'll b there and she's pretty gd friends with him. That familiar paranoia's setting in....

I'll tell ya how things go. Just goes to show life isn't always a bitch