Just curious about this situation I found myself in last night...
So, I have 4 brand new roommates. I moved into this house because the rent was very reasonable and the living space was plentiful. I share a bathroom with another girl and so far we've gotten along wonderfully.
Yesterday kind of sucked though. L (my roomie) and I went to lunch in downtown San Diego. She asked me if I knew any great spots and so I decided we should go to this one French style cafe that I love. We chilled, drank some mimosas, and had a great time. I offered to pay, but she wanted to split it. I paid for most including the tax because I wanted it to be my treat.
On the way home we decided that we should do a taco Tuesday night. Later on that evening, her friends came over and suddenly I was shut out. I assumed that because "L" and I had talked about it earlier that day that it was a joint venture. She and her friends came back with margarita mix, tequila, and taco fixings. As they started making margaritas I asked if I could steal a little tequila to which I got the response, "Umm... Maybe we should wait on that." Not understanding exactly what the issue was, I kindly backed off and said, "Oh, well, nevermind. I'm cool."
The rest of the night consisted of the girls taking over the communal kitchen space, with barely a word to me. I took my leave shortly after realizing I apparently wasn't meant to be a part of their party and watched TV in the other room. My roomie "A" came home shortly after and offered to make me a drink and we chilled in his room and I helped him hang some art up.
I do my best to be inclusive. I've invited "L" out with me and my friends several times, but she never takes me up on it. I want to have my friends over soon for a game night party, or something. I do plan on including "L" and anyone else that comes through the door. Am I wrong in thinking that this is the most respectful way to do this? I know how it feels to get shut out, and it blows. I feel that she was a really sucky hostess last night, and I was made to feel uncomfortable in my own home and that doesn't sit right with me. What do you guys think?