Hi all,
I am hoping for some honest advice from men and any women that have been in a similar situation. My partner and I have been together for 3 1/2 years and have lived together for 1 1/2 years. I am 31 and he is 37 and I have tried to discuss marriage and children with him 3 times in the last 6 months. He tells me that he loves me and wants to spend his life with me and doesn't want me to go but he won't compromise. It is very frustrating, as his answer is "I don't plan"! When I told him I am unhappy in this relationship he asked me why I was here then? Last night when we had a fight about him not talking he said to me "you shouldn't stay here if you're not happy". When I asked once again why he won't discuss anything about our future he said he doesn't have the energy and when I asked him why he said he doesn't know! I feel this is giving up on our relationship too easily, he either doesn't love me or just can't be bothered. I threaten to leave every time because I feel unhappy that he won't plan anything with me. I am not interested in getting married right now but feel inadequate that he won't bring up any plans for our future together, especially since everybody around me has been getting engaged and married lately! It has been a bit of a wake up call for me. I guess I have left this for too long now! I am quite an ambitious person with my investing and other hobbies and I guess I have been in denial about my age and now realised that marriage and children is probably something I will regret if I don't get myself organised! The hard thing is he swears he loves me and there is nobody else so it is hard to make a decision. Should I leave or what should I do?
Thank you!