What is going on in that head of his...? Need some advice

[xsilenthrtachex]

Well I have been seeing this guy for a little over a month now. He has recently moved about an hour away from me and he has been EXTREMLEY distant. Before he moved we spent almost everyday together, doing whatever whenever. When we werent together he made sure to go out of his way to let me know he was thinking about me. Now that he has moved I don't get much from him at all. I'm lucky to get a text message a day. He doesn't call me and hasn't made any plans with me in over 2 weeks. I find myself going out of my way to tell him I miss him and I am thinking about him. He always replies with what I need to hear but he doesn't seem to be going out of his way for me. We had a great connection before he moved away. I feel like I am wanting someone who doesn't even give me the time of day anymore... any suggestions? input? Anything would help

[girl68]

did you discuss the distance before he moved?

[xsilenthrtachex]

We did and he told me that nothing was going to change and he would be down to see me as much as he could be. He blames his actions on his hectic life, but I don't feel like that is an excuse to i guess "neglect" the person you "care" about.

[girl68]

Are you aware that moving is a big deal can be very hectic?

[xsilenthrtachex]

Yes I am. I have moved myself, but he has been moved and settled in for over 2 weeks now.

[girl68]

Settled for 2 weeks? I moved and my life was hell for months before it was in order and settled in coupled with a new job. So maybe you could cut him some slack and give it a few months. Not everyone can be moved in settled and all cozy in a brand new home in 2 weeks like yoruself.

[sookie6]

give it sometime I'd say BUT...

you need to be aware that some people (men especially in my humble opinion) don't react well to long distance.

Men being strong visual creatures, with them it's really a question of out of sight/out of love.

I am not saying that this is the case here...but I'd say there will be some serious transition coming up when your man is very likely to cut ties...are you going to be apart for long?????

Anyway there is not much you can do about it for now. Best adive would be to :

- remain yourself for the time being

- decide on a reasonable amount of time/ a deadline after which you can decide he is being an asshole

-act upon it

[davidtorres]

hahaha let me give you a male point of view. its as simple as this. he found someone and he just lagging this for you to give up on him so move on!

[Gigabitch]

Maybe you should go see him.