I can't orgasm during sex!

[DUKE546]

I am a guy, I just lost my virginity last week and instead of blowing my load right away, it didn't happen at ALL! My girlfriend joked around with me about only lasting five mins (shes not a virgin) before we started having sex, I laughed about knowing she was probably right. So the big day finally rolled around out of nowhere. Well we started to have sex and 5 mins quickly came and then went... 15 to 20 mins later my girlfriend made me stop because she said my penis was to big and it was starting to hurt. I was not feeling any pleasure at all and I didn't seem anywhere close to having an orgasm! I was extremely disappointed because of all the hype i have heard about sex growing up, dont get me wrong it felt good but not what i was expecting. My girlfriend gets wet very easily, and when we have sex we have to put a towel or something down to catch all of her cum cuz it gets quite messy. Is it possible for her to get to wet so it creates to much of a barrier between my penis and her vagina? Or is it just the way i am? Or am i just expecting to much for my first couple of times.


It is really frustrating because I have yet to orgasm at all with from girlfriend. She refuses to give me blow jobs because she says its gross, she gives me hand jobs for literally all of 5 secs. I eat her out for like 10 mins cuz it makes her go crazy and she loves it. I give her hour long back massages, she gives me 5 sec back scratches... I thought sex would finally be the thing that would please me but now its the same result as everything else... my girlfriend happy and satisfied and me going home and jakin off. Am I being selfish?


PLEASE really need some in put!

[Gribble]

That's surprisingly not that uncommon. My first time I blew in what felt like five seconds. After that, probably the next ten times or so I felt almost nothing and I only got off from oral. It really bugged the hell out of me. I was nervous, I didn't know what to do, and it was different from anything I'd done before. You've got to learn to get off to intercourse. Sex is all about tactile sensations. If, like me, you spent your teenage years beating off to a gigantic library of porn, you're used to getting off from visual stimulation. Don't sweat it. Keep trying. One day it will just click. It'll feel so good. You'll start moaning and grunting in spite of yourself. Your hands will roam as if of their own free will. You'll become totally absorbed in the moment. It's awesome when it all starts to fall into place.

[vashti]

Stop wanking for a while. You probably just desensitized yourself.

[DUKE546]

That makes a lo of sense gribble! Thanks most of what you said was right hahaha

I tried talking to my gf about not giving me orgasms and how maybe she could try and pleasure me more, she completely blew me off and acted like she didn't care.. I love her to death but she is frustrating as hell