What's up with this?

[BubbleFreak]

There used to be a guy who I got along with really well. Other people thought he was shy and very quiet, but I never noticed that and in fact he even gave me some graphics program because I simply mentioned I liked playing with pictures. Then one day I started going out with someone (the love of my life) and soon after this other guy never talked to me again. Actually, avoided me, sometimes I think he actually hates me.

Since then he has opened up to other people, often becoming centre of attention, hasn't had a girlfriend though. I never was sexually attracted to him and now that he has broken out of his shell, am even more certain things would never have worked out (assuming he even liked me like that).

What I don't understand is, why is he the reverse of what he used to be? He is now outgoing with others but never ever talks to me, at all, even avoids eye contact. Why couldn't we have been friends?

Did I do something wrong?

[lahnnabell]

He's probably disappointed because he really liked you. He's pretty much doing the "no contact" thing in order to let his feelings for you calm down. I mentioned a guy like this on another thread. Once he found out how serious I was about my boyfriend he disappeared from my life. I really liked hanging out with him, but not more than friends, and so I didn't push it. The way I see it also is that decent guys seem to have some sort of code that they won't mess with another guy's girl. I take it that my friend is simply respecting the fact that while he's interested in more, he shouldn't be disrespectful in the process.

I remember one night last year during the first month of seeing my boyfriend he and I went out to a popular music venue (he was working a free admission event that night) and so I got to be his guest. We weren't official yet and he was busy working so I spent my time making friends and enjoying the bands. I started talking to one guy at the bar for a bit. My boyfriend kept coming to visit me every so often when he had a free moment but I didn't let that stop me from making new friends. As we were leaving together that night, the same dude I met at the bar caught up with my boyfriend and was like, "Dude, I'm sorry, man. I didn't know she was yours." Haha... My boyfriend isn't the jealous type, and so he shrugged it off. I suppose maybe creating a little friction to see how into me my guy was. After one more bar and several beers later, he carried my drunk ass to bed

[BubbleFreak]

That makes sense, I never thought that maybe he was sticking to some decent guy's code. Thank you lahhnabell

[Teddy057]

Yeah, I was becoming great friends with a girl I knew once. The only problem with having a "great friend" of the opposite sex is usually one person feels much stronger for the other one. Once a relationship is mentioned or hinted and someone doesn't want it, it kind of ruins the friendship, sadly.

[dono01]

Yeah, he liked you, and got "shot down."

I think guys are more emotional than girls give them credit for. Anywho, he's just being a man and "forgetting" about you.