Me and my boyfriend broke up a month ago. He did the breaking up. I accepted. A month went by, and I missed him but I decided it was best to move on. Unfortunately when you're drunk...that's not so easy to do. I drunk texted him. And in the morning instead of finding an angry text in response to my drunk text...I got a text telling me that he felt the same way. And missed me too.
We spent a week texting endlessly. Catching up. THen came the weekend. We spent it together. We talked. We didn't explicitly say we where getting back together, but it was implied. We talked about working on our relationship. Talking more. Stuff you say when you're planning to get back together right?
Well after the weekend another week went by and he started acting weird. Distant. This annoyed me. So I decided rather than let this bother me I was going to act like it didn't bother me. So this is what happened. I texted him. Below is our dialogue:
Me: Hey. I am getting some time off this next two weeks. Let me know when you want to hang out again. But give me some notice. I'm in high demand after all
Him: Oh. What do you have planned tonight?
Me: Going out with friends to a party and then tomorrow I have family coming over and I am going to spend sometime with them.
Him: Ok. Be careful. Don't drink too much and pleas don't drive if you've been drinking. I don't want you to get hurt.
Me: I won't. So what do you have planned today.
Him: I'm going to watch a Laker game with the family.
Me: Ah.Well you can come with me to the party if you like. You're always invited.
Him: Thank you for the offer but I have a dinner to go to tonight at my Tennis club.
Me: Need a date?
Him: I have plenty of dates thank you.
Me: ....
Him: What's that supposed to mean?
Me: I thought you said we where going to work things out?
Him: I will see whoever I chose and you should do the same. You need to stop planning your weekends around me.
Me: Shut up. Last weekend you where all lovey dovey and I love you and now you suddenly have dates? You're a selfish spoiled
brat.
Him: If I'm a selfish spoiled brat than why do you even want to be with me? you always do this. You always get so angry and blow up at me.
Me: Because I love you. And you said you loved me last weekend and said you probably would always love me. But I guess you just said that to get me into bed right? You where just lying when you said all that I guess.
Him: No. Don't twist my words. This relationship failed twice. Why would I want to try and start over again.
Me: It failed because you always come up with bullshit excuses like "I don't have enough money" or "I look bored during sex." If you love someone I don't understand why in the world you wouldn't want to do everything in your power to be with someone. I just don't get that.
Him: We obviously don't see eye to eye and we are just going to keep hurting each other unless we can come to an understanding. I want to be your friend.
Me: Fine we can be friends. But I'm not sleeping with you ever again. You make me feel guilty for doing so. We can't be friends and be having sex too.
Him: I agree...but neither of us is very good around each other...
Me: Oh trust me. Now that I know where you stand I will not be doing anything of the sort with you.
Him: Good. Ok gotta go.
I was pissed. And decided to just chalk it up to experience and move on. Just not talk to him anymore. He's obviously a jerk. But then i started rereading the texts...they started off so nice. And it makes me wonder...did he just say he was going on "dates" because I said I was in high demand? I was just joking. Trying to be coy and sexy and cute.
The thing is I don't want to ask him or talk to him about this because...I don't want him to know it's bothering me. I'd rather have him think he's lost me for good then go back and say.."ok let's talk this over...what happened during that conversation"
So I'm here lol Because I need outside input. It's driving me crazy. Was he being a jerk or was he just trying to get me to be jealous?
What are your opinions?