Don't know what to do /. .\

**Chovi** · 28-09-04, 08:11 AM

I need some advice.

I've been going out for this girl for like, 3 weeks. And we've already split up around 3 times (lost count). It's always about her ex boyfriend, who is a total nob.

I knew he used to beat her, and they don't always get on, but they always still keep in contact. But the other day, she said she still loved him. My heart broke, and then she hung up. The day later, she came up to me and kissed me. I'm like, OK? I asked her why she said that shit, but she said she was "Tired" Even though it was only around 11 PM i rung her up. And she said she loves me more than him.

So i'm still with her, but tongiht she had a phone call, and said it was her mate. But i kept nagging her and she confessed it was HIM. She said he wanted to meet up with her, tomorrow. She said she wouldn't. I do kinda trust her, but im guess im just paranoid.

Should i dump her. Even though i love her, or just stay with her, until somethin' happens. like i see them together... Even as mates. i can't stand it.

**LifeStyles** · 28-09-04, 08:22 AM

Sorry to hear about the situation you're in, but you should definitely drop this girl like a bad habit man. I'm sure you like her alot, but 3 weeks isn't really enough time to say that you love someone, you hardly even know them. If he beat her before, and she still sees him on ocassion, and says she still loves him, then you can't do anything for her. Obviously she has some serious issues that you will want no part of. Break it off with her and chalk it up to experience, you'll find someone worth your time eventually. Sorry man.

**Chovi** · 28-09-04, 08:27 AM

Originally Posted by LifeStyles

Sorry to hear about the situation you're in, but you should definitely drop this girl like a bad habit man. I'm sure you like her alot, but 3 weeks isn't really enough time to say that you love someone, you hardly even know them. If he beat her before, and she still sees him on ocassion, and says she still loves him, then you can't do anything for her. Obviously she has some serious issues that you will want no part of. Break it off with her and chalk it up to experience, you'll find someone worth your time eventually. Sorry man.

We were dating for a few weeks earlier, so like 5 weeks, and fancied her for months.

If i ever see the 2 of them together, then i'll definately break it.

I'll wait for some other people's suggestions.

**HastaSiempre** · 28-09-04, 09:58 AM

I'm in a similar situation, albeit not quite as bad, and I feel for you. It's really confusing and hurtful, but just keep on truckin', bro.

**Andy_S** · 30-09-04, 12:39 AM

In my expirience with my ex was, the moment i trusted her was the moment she ran all over me.

Just be carefull mate. I personally would finish it before it gets any worse. The question i keeep asking myself here is, why does she talk to him if he beat her?????

**Chovi** · 03-10-04, 06:42 AM

Well today we broke up. I just don't trust her.

I'm a bit upset, but hope i get over it.

We'll try and probably just stay friends.

**sfalexi** · 03-10-04, 06:49 AM

We'll try and probably just stay friends.

Don't even bother. It'll just make it harder for you to get over her and you'll have to deal with her coming to YOU with all the shit her boyfriend puts her through and then having her say, "Thanks for listening to me. Now I have to go back so he can **** the shit out of me. I'll bring some more of my problems to you later."

Just drop all contact.

Rod STeele

**Chovi** · 03-10-04, 08:37 AM

Nah, i work with her.

**sfalexi** · 03-10-04, 02:58 PM

Originally Posted by Chovi

Nah, i work with her.

Fine. Just don't be coming to us with all you future problems with her and her boyfriend/ex/whatever he is at the time cause you got plenty of advice (most of which clearly stated to just leave her be).

Rod Steele

**MVPlaya** · 03-10-04, 03:27 PM

Originally Posted by Chovi

I need some advice.

I've been going out for this girl for like, 3 weeks. And we've already split up around 3 times (lost count). It's always about her ex boyfriend, who is a total nob.

I knew he used to beat her, and they don't always get on, but they always still keep in contact. But the other day, she said she still loved him. My heart broke, and then she hung up. The day later, she came up to me and kissed me. I'm like, OK? I asked her why she said that shit, but she said she was "Tired" Even though it was only around 11 PM i rung her up. And she said she loves me more than him.

So i'm still with her, but tongiht she had a phone call, and said it was her mate. But i kept nagging her and she confessed it was HIM. She said he wanted to meet up with her, tomorrow. She said she wouldn't. I do kinda trust her, but im guess im just paranoid.

Should i dump her. Even though i love her, or just stay with her, until somethin' happens. like i see them together... Even as mates. i can't stand it.

Don't be thick, homie. Inside, you KNOW that this relationship isn't going anywhere, but you're actively fooling yourself because you don't know what else to do. Trust me, she is a waste of time and you got what you needed out of a relationship, you dated a chick, even if it was for a short time. She doesn't know what to do and for the most will use you, not because she's better than you, but because she needs validation and so far you're letting her use you for that. Just break up with her and be cool about it.

If she comes after you again, reject her, she's still playing games and, besides, she's really not worth it.

Congrats. You're single again!

-mv

**Chovi** · 04-10-04, 03:49 AM

Going clubbing Saturday.. 6 days... I think. I'm on the pull.

I kinda got the silent treatment off her today. Well, she just kind of ignored me. Oh well.

**blue** · 04-10-04, 03:51 AM

awsome so i am asuming that you are moving on?

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