Hi,
nothing new here but im very inexperienced when it comes to this sort of thing so i could use some advice
i met a girl at a club we both go to about half a year ago, we sent messages to each other a lot and we started going out (she asked me out after my not so subtle hints). Things were going pretty well, she knew i was crazy about her and i know she liked me but she was always worried about people at the club finding out since she had a bad experience with an exboyfriend who she used to work with that made her life misery at her work, she didnt want the same thing to happen at the club.
anyway one day out of the blue she sent me amessage saying that she couldnt do it anymore and that she just wanted to be friends, this was after our second date during which she got a message from her exboyfriend. Anyway i was devastated, ive never felt this way about anyone before, it hit me like a sledgehammer moreso because it was totally unexpected, anyway i havent been able to stop thinking about it for the last 6 months, i cut myself off from her and stopped going to the club and concentrated on my studies
2 weeks ago i went back to the club and she was there, it brought all the pain back and i could do nothing but ignore her the whole time
so its basically an intolerable situation, i think im in love with her, i dont know if she just used me as an ego boost to get over her ex but i can tell she is not happy when i ignore her.
part of me thinks i should be mature and get over my feelings and be mature about it so that we can both have fun at the club, it was only a couple of dates and some messages sent, did i blow things out of all proportion? or should i continue to ignore her? I cant change the way i feel about her.