Not to belittle your feelings or the meaning this relationship has to you but something I came to realize when everybody got sick of me talking over and over about is that it happens to everybody. Almost every single person on this planet. We lose something that is the most important thing that we have ever come to know. Nothing else seems to matter. We have all been where you have been.
Yet people still push on. People find a way to deal and move on. Maybe you have seen some of your friends hit rock bottom, but never really understood the extent until you found yourself in their situation. You are going to mull it over and over in your head, kick yourself for things that you now know you shouldn't have done, and be angry, frustrated and hurt for things on her part that were wrong.
It's not easy. You are at some of the darkest times you have ever been in and you just wish it would go away. The pain, to be gone. But it doesn't happen like that. There isn't a realistic quick fix. Even if she were to run back to you right this minute and burst into tears about how sorry she was and how much she loves you and how things will be okay now, it still would not take away all the pain you are in. Not to mention that is totally and utterly unrealistic. You have to keep telling yourself that it's not going to happen. She will not save you from the pain you are in. The only person you have is you to get you out of this. You have friends and family for support and by all means use them, but they can only do so much for you. It's up to you ultimately in the end.
It does get better with time. Hard to believe because you are fluctuating between the high highs and the low lows. It's not like it gets better every day, because you are going to hit a wall or rough patch and crash. It happens to all of us. I'm still fighting through rough patches going on eight months. Eight months! Not talking to her, not seeing her, and knowing this whole time my ex has a new boyfriend that I assume is giving her what she wants and needs. I still dream about her. Do not make the mistake of thinking you are the only one that has this amazing connection you never thought you would have with another person. Because we all feel it. With different people. And we will all feel it again. Be it with them or somebody new. With each rough patch you pass, you will feel more like yourself and more stronger than before.
Take the time to really accept that this is what she wants. You cannot be happy with her if she is not happy with what you guys had. It hurts and it's a big blow to the ego. You thought you were giving her everything she needs and maybe you were, she might have been too narrow sighted to see it. Whatever the reasons, whatever the issues, it doesn't change what has happened and there is really nothing you can do about her and her feelings or your feeling for that matter. But you can control your actions, and you have to use everything in your power to push forward. It's serious effort. It's draining. You may not feel like you have much left. But it does get better, and it will get better faster when you accept that this is how it is and that you are a better person for this experience, even if you do not have her to share it with. But you will have somebody else, even if it isn't conceivable now. You will when you are ready and you will find it or it will find you.
Waking up next to a beautiful girl,
Step outside and say hello to my beautiful world.