I have an absolutely wonderful wife. I love her dearly and would never cheat on her. We get on very well as friends and as husband and wife. Now the thing is she has given me permission to have a BJ from someone else if it is safe and there is no other sex involved and especially no relationship.
In actuallity, she's clever because A) she knows I can't lie B) she knows I will be honest and C) I won't cheat. So yeah, she's given me permission, but she knows that I would have to find someone and just ask for a BJ and nothing else. Yeah, that girl exists.
The back story is that I enjoy sex a lot. Want it a lot and I like all other aspects of being intimate, all foreplay etc. Only thing is, she's not into the BJs. She does give them though about once a week. Sometimes every other week. Now, I know I really shouldn't complain and in fact I don't. But a while back she said "you know, I'd just as soon have someone else do this." I joked yeah right but she said she was serious.
And not overdoing it, she has mentioned it a few times over the span of a year. We talked and she said her feeling is that it wouldn't bother her. Sex and a relationship would. In fact, I've always thought I would never cheat. I don't want to. I love her. I don't want a relationship and not into sex with someone else. But if a woman offered a BJ, I'd be thinking hard about it.
So, I guess I'm wondering about this. I mean, is it ok? Is it something anyone else has done? She told me under no uncertain terms, if I could get one to take it. But I'd better not do one thing else or she'll cut certain things off.So she's given me the permission but I'm torn between really liking the BJ idea and the fact that I love her so much, I don't think I could do it even if she gave her blessing.
Does anyone have a similar arrangement? Or is it right for me to do it if that's all I'm looking for?