Why am I so pants with relationships?

[embrace]

Hi

Im new to the forums and am seeking advice on where Im going wrong with my love life. I have had crap luck with girls, Im always myself and i dont act differently. I seem to have lots of girl mates but none of them want to date me and seem to just want to be mates with me I get frustrated inside and tend to deal with this all alone longest relationship Ive had is like a month and my shortest is 2 weeks.

Girls dont tend to look at me even though Im a smiley jovile person Ive tried looking and pretty much given up, I also tried waiting for them to come to me but still nothing happens. Something else Ive noticed is that I start to like a girl off internet like on facebook I really like this lovely girl but she lives over 200 miles away, has kids and bf. She admits she fancies me too and that we both have lots in common, she confides me loads about everything and she recently met me for my birthday with her boyfriend.

In the end I just couldnt stop thinking about her and told her how I felt luckily she didnt freak out but it has brought us closer together as friends I just dont know what to do or think anymore

Help!

[Rich]

Sounds to me like your trying to be friends with a girl first, then trying to get into a relationship?
You've gotta make your intentions clear from the beginning in my opinion. Stay out of the friends zone

[embrace]

Hi

Yeah have tried the other approach by making intentions clear at first but still hasnt worked out so tried the friends route first as a way in. Maybe i should try the first option again?