I'll try to keep it short --
January
- Start chatting online with a guy
- Meet him a few weeks later, we sit and talk for 3-4 hours over coffee
- He starts to text me every day
- 4 days after that first "date" we catch a movie at his place, it ends up with sex.
- He continues to stay in touch with texts, emails and phone calls every day.
February
- He seems less eager to chat and meet up, but we continue to talk and meet, sometimes including sex
- He starts sending mixed signals, starting convos all the time, but not seeming too eager to talk
- Finally I call him, ask if he's afraid that I might be having feelings for him. He says that he doesn't think that, but he doesn't want a relationship and that we should stop seeing each other "cause it's not fair to either of us." This really confused me, cause I never mentioned ANYTHING about a relationship, or that we should talk about moving forward, I was just asking if HE was afraid that I was starting to feel things (which I at that time wasn't) because his behavior was sorta hinting towards that.
- He shuts me off cold turkey. Removes me from his phone book, stops messaging, texting, everything. Just like that.
March
- I'm annoyed at it, cause we agreed to still be friends, but he obviously didn't want that either, so I wanted to talk to him.
- After being persistent at trying to get a hold of him, I finally do, and we decide to meet up (which he cancelled, not at all to my surprise)
- I finally think, fine, I'll just go in it for the sex, and I contact him again and he agrees to meet up for sex.
April-May
- We've been seeing each other every 2-3 weeks for sex
- We basically never talk unless someone is in the mood so to say
- He has changed a bit though, he's a lot nicer now when I meet him, a lot like in the beginning
- But I now feel the casual sex is quite meaningless
MY QUESTION IS, GUYS:::
Is there ANY chance of me salvaging all the damage done by my previous behavior (having sex "too soon", the awkward phone call, the suggestion of having casual sex..) and possibly turning this whole thing into a relationship or is it doomed? I was thinking of cutting him off my life for a couple of months and try to reconnect later, but I don't know if that would help.
Thank you so much!