I am really frustrated with myself lately. I have been in love with this girl that I worked with for about a year before we started dating. I have always had depression issues and never really acted upon them but when I lost my job my problems became worse and worse. Eventually It was taking a huge tole on our relationship and we decided to take some time apart.
At the time I was unsure if we would really ever get back together. At first she was trying to pull the "friends card" but I couldn't do that, it was just too hard. I would imagine the fact that I had no job, no school, no hobbies, nothing but her was a major reason letting go was so hard. Regardless, I was able to get by after a while. We still talked via text here and there and a couple months later we started hanging out again, of course, it didn't stay innocent for very long.
Here is where the problems starts. During the time we were apart I did nothing about my depression which got worse and worse do to the fact that I was stuck home alone all day everyday with nothing to do. When things first started happening between us again I told her that I was worried I wasn't ready, we rushed things and basically got back together. I was happy at first but my depression quickly took over. I finally got into the doctors and started my antidepressants today and my therapy starts in about a month.
Because I am such a miserable person to be around when I am depressed she agreed to give me my time alone if I felt I needed it, and if I REALLY needed to take a month apart to try to get a little better she was ok with that too. She really does love me, and I love her as well, but since my emotions have taken a turn for the worst I have developed a sense of jealousy that was not there before.
I am 20 and she is 24, I have only been in one other "serious" relationship which was more of a highscool relationship so... not a very realistic one. I love this girl, she is my best friend, but now it seams to bug me that she has been with so many more people then me, but why the hell should that bug me if I KNOW she LOVES me and wants no one else but ME? I have never been part of the crowd that runs around crazy trying to get laid all the time, I have always been a romantic, I have always wanted... well, exactly what I am being offered! So I don't understand, during our time apart I met a couple of girls but never took them out, I just had no interest in them, they just couldnt compare, but then when I am with this girl, these jealous feelings of her past come up that were not there in the first place! Could this just be a result of my depression and me not having a LIFE at all??? Is it a self asteam thing? How do I get rid of this! THANKS FOR ANY ADVICE!