what have i done?

[Kittybee1]

Hiya and thank you to all who take the time to reply to this...

I already posted this before, but would love some more help...

My boyfriend died 5 years ago and i've been single ever since. Suddenly i meet a guy in a coffee shop and we really clicked and swapped details.

We emailed loads and he called me and we had an amazing hour long chat to arrange a date for next week, but we didn't fix a day. All day wednesday and thursday we messaged and emailed too then - - - he added me to facebook.

I accepted him, then panicked and removed him then i felt really rude a tried to re ad him but he didn't show up in a search.

I sent him a silly message and told him this whole thing by text about adding him then deleting him and he only replied to say that he didn't appear because his privacy settings were so strong and there were loads of weirdo stalkers out there.

Did he mean me? Have i put him off?

I texted from the train on Friday lunchtime lunchtime as i 'm away for the weekend.

I said:

Hi Rob, on my way home, not on email and you're welcome to call me over the weekend to arrange that drink. Enjoy your night tonight.

He replied: Knocking off early?!

I said: Absolutely :-) All officially pre arranged... x

Then saturday i texted him to say: how's the head? x

(as i knew he had a bit night out on friday)

He has not replied and before that he was texting me loads - it has now been 48 hours. This was my first potential date in 5 years and i'm devastated - what do i do???
So - did i totally mess it up?

Everything was going great until the whole facebook thing!!!

[xxazurexx]

What I would have told him, is that I'd accidently deleted him and ask if he could give me his details so I could readd him.

So he may well be thinking it's a bit odd that he added you and you deleted him and then you fess up to removing him and because you got scared.

Who knows why he hasn't resumed contact. Maybe the fact you said you got scared, put him off. He will be thinking 'Scared of what exactly'? and be thinking he may be wasting his time in getting to know a female who gets scared easily.Or be thinking you have 'issues' and he may have dealt with females who have issues in the past and doesn't want to go there again.

Thing is and when you send a text and you aren't hearing back, it's a waste of time continuing to pursue. The fact he isn't texting back, speaks loud and clear and tells you all you need to know.

I dunno. I think if this was me, I'd send ONE more text and to see if he replied. If he doesn't, then I'd give him up as a lost cause.

Plenty more where he came from you know