Can a man be too good looking?

[Cosmo]

I don't mean 'attractive' because we are all attracted to different things...

But, can a man be too good looking? Does this make them appear to be trying too hard? Or cause false pretenses? Especially in regards to 'classically handsome.'? I mean, if a guy is good looking do you assume certain things about them? Now I don't mean metro because I have the 'manly man' look.

I ask for many reasons but one that came up recently... Now I know how this sounds, but please don't misinterpret. I'm self-conscious not conceited. Especially right now, my face finally slimmed back down and I've almost got my jawline back but I've definitely 'widened' out with age.

My ex told me ~4 months into the relationship that she assumed I was a complete asshole and 'rat' of a guy because I looked like the kind of guy who could get and take whatever he wanted and then found out I was one of the nicest guys she ever met. That's how she explained how we met to people. Recently she basically said the same thing, except that she wanted a 'trophy' to bang to make her ex jealous and didn't care about hurting me since she thought I was a player (I've only EVER done anything sexual while in serious relationships) and then she fell in love. thanks, probably shouldn't say yes to a proposal if this is how you felt by the way, for future reference. (Maybe that's why she lost interest 4 years later when I gained 30lbs -->lost it all btw)

I ignored this, but this Friday I had a similar reaction from a group of girls. Got the initial 'check out' followed by the 'slut eye' (its a glimmer in a girls eye that develops when they decide they'd bang you, its real I've documented it). However, basically they automatically assumed I was a conceited prick and started to treat me as such, so I played the part, (much to the pleasure of my friend, he was laughing his ass off and going along with it).

I had a female friend explain the response I get to me though, she brought it up and she said I make girls feel insecure around me because of my physical appearance and confidence when I'm being 'me' but because I'm so nice it actually draws them in. Because of this I can friend zone girls and still end up dating them later (also documented). How I've acted since meeting my ex and the weeks following our break up does the complete opposite, she said I lack my former abundance of confidence and therefore am assumed to be a conceited snob with no interest in the girls around me. I think this also stems from me literally trying to keep girls away from me while in my relationship. Women we met would always show an interest in me and I'd basically scare them away so as to keep my fiance from kicking their ass. I'd show absolutely no interest in them and make this very clear. I'm probably still stuck in that mindset. I mean, I literally worked to make myself less attractive to women, I didn't know it would make my fiance less attracted as well...

I mean does her explanation make sense?

How does a 'classically handsome' man make you feel? I just want to make female friends and they all treat me like the guy trying to get into their pants. Is classically handsome less attractive than quirky? Am I actually really ugly now and in denial?

[Lulu]

Sorry but now I am DYING to see a pic!

[aksy]

Yes it is possible, personally I don't like too good-looking man, because sometimes it feels feminine

[SirWagginston]

I worry about this, too.

[xxazurexx]

While I may see a good looking guy and think along the lines of 'I bet he has tons of females after him', I don't judge him to be an ass, player, etc and because he's good looking.

Asses are to be found among the good looking and the not so good looking. I never judge someone, until they open their mouth.

[lahnnabell]

I've dated several different types of men. Some of my exes have been a little on the nerdy side. One was rather skinny, little body build, and the other was on the heavier side. I fell in love with them because of their passion. One of them was very passionate about art and teaching, the other about writing and photography. Another of my exes was a very adventurous, lone wolf type. None of them I would call classically handsome.

My current boyfriend is a classic though. Absolutely the most handsome man I've ever seen. I adore him and his personality. When I first saw him though it was only a picture online. He looked amazing and I decided to message him. I never thought he'd message me back, but as it turns out, he thought I was the most beautiful girl he'd ever seen. So, he messaged me right away. His looks combined with his sweetness garner him a lot of attention though. I'm not bothered by it though. He's got eyes for me, and I trust him.

[bluesummer]

It's a rare gem of a man that's flawlessly good-looking and doesn't either A) let it go completely to his head and/or B) use it to bang as many girls as he can get.

I pretty much don't trust them from the get-go. From experience.

[lastwish]

Ya, a good looking man does gives off a "I am conceited, a player, and a brat" aura. And the not good looking, nerdy, skinny guys gives off a "I am faithful, intelligent, and deep" impression. But this isn't true at all. I have dated the classic nerdy, not good looking guy before and he was a complete asshole. The positive thing is that even if a girl think that of you, she would still be attracted to you. You can use this chance to show her you are more than a piece of meat.