A catch or not?

[Kaius]

I have a "friend" who, on paper, appears to be really a super guy. Here are his stats:

Asian
35 years old
5'9"
169 lbs.
medium build
quite handsome (popular consensus)
nice abs, nice ass (according to ladies)
Controller (chief accounting officer) for a prestigious firm
Top 50 undergrad university
MBA in management
Annual earning $160k+
Loves sci-fi, cooking, rock music, romantic nights out, friendly but shy.
Extremely loyal...would not look at another woman.
Quick sense of humor...
Polite, always on time, always has a plan.
Insane in bed....can wear out most women within 4 hours...virtually no down time.

This guys is the most honest and decent dude you'll ever meet. But for some reason he is terribly insecure, and mentally insane.
Catch or pass?

[RdHrshyKss]

everything you listed sounded good, up until the terribly insecure and mentally insane part hahaha...

how exactly is he insecure and what does he do that makes you claim he's mentally insane?

[QueenofCorona]

Yeah, certifiabley insane is usually a thumbs down in my book. Define his "insane," are we talkin "dude, you so crazy" or are we talking Lindsey Lohan insane?

[Kaius]

I don't know why he's so insecure about himself. He keeps thinking he doesn't deserve to be happy.
The "mentally insane" part is self-proclaimed. He is taking some mild meds to calm his mind. He has gone through a lot of emotional pain.
He's not dangerous or anything... just has lots of "noise" in his head.

[girl68]

I hope he's in therepy! And it don't matter how great anyone is if they're a total wack job it ain't gonna stick.

[Gigabitch]

The meds are a concern for me. I want someone who can get through the rough parts without meds. I did. I'm not against them per se, I just think they should be for emergencies only.

[IndiReloaded]

I have a "friend" who, on paper, appears to be really a super guy. Here are his stats:

Asian
35 years old
5'9"
169 lbs.
medium build
quite handsome (popular consensus)
nice abs, nice ass (according to ladies)
Controller (chief accounting officer) for a prestigious firm
Top 50 undergrad university
MBA in management
Annual earning $160k+
Loves sci-fi, cooking, rock music, romantic nights out, friendly but shy.
Extremely loyal...would not look at another woman.
Quick sense of humor...
Polite, always on time, always has a plan.
Insane in bed....can wear out most women within 4 hours...virtually no down time.

This guys is the most honest and decent dude you'll ever meet. But for some reason he is terribly insecure, and mentally insane.
Catch or pass?

Does he have any interests outside of work? Honestly, I'd be on the fence about a guy like this. His income is solid but not stellar. He's on the short side. Does he do anything other than work? The meds are a definite turn-off.

[xxazurexx]

Well I hate sci fi, except for old episodes of Star Trek with Captain Kirk......and I'm not a lover of rock music and I'm not that keen on shy guys. But maybe I should go for the shy guys, because I've had no luck with the 'life and soul' of the party kind of guy, which I tend to attract. Although I'm unsure why and because I'm introvert and quite reserved. Perhaps they see me as a 'pushover'...well until they get to know me properly that is, then we clash I'd like the fact you can be faithful...because I've had enough of cheaters. And I like a sense of humour because I possess one.

I've dealt with the mentally insane before and I would try you out, but if it was non stop insanity I'd be gone.

[bluesummer]

No amount of money, looks, or intelligence could make me interested in a guy on meds to 'calm his mind'. That sounds bizarre.

I'd take half the pay and looks and have a sane nice guy, thanks.

[Cosmo]

PASS

I will never ever put myself into a relationship with someone who is not mentally stable again. They can deal with their shit first and then we can go from there.

Yes its a disease, but with counselling it can be dealt with. If you aren't mentally stable you aren't ready to be in a relationship imho.


Its funny, money really is THAT important to some people huh? Kind of unrelated, but I've noticed a lot on this forum that ambition and money are HUGE factors in picking a mate. I honestly don't give a shit, if I love the person we can live in a cardboard box together and die happy being in each others company.

[lastwish]

Maybe he is schizo since he has lots of noise in his head.

[RdHrshyKss]

The meds are a concern for me. I want someone who can get through the rough parts without meds. I did. I'm not against them per se, I just think they should be for emergencies only.

totally agree, meds just hide the problem, they do nothing to actually fix the underlying cause

[sookie6]

You have to wonder why with such a resume the man is still single...well you have your answer!


And no it would not be a good idea to become inolved with such a man.