should I try to win him over?

[skeptic]

hey so I'm a senior college student, currently working part time at a retail store. I've been there for a little over a year now and only recently did I start talking and spending time with this one coworker. We have talked before, but not the way we do now. He's always going out of his way for me, he spends lunch breaks with me whenever we have break at the same time and usually I don't ask him to, he just does. He also tells me everything, he confides in me, we're always laughing when we're together, and things just, come naturally. I never feel like I have to impress him.

There's a reason that's deterring any kind of progression. there's another girl in the picture. he had mentioned this other girl to me once in a conversation we had during a break together. he didn't mention much about her, but he said enough for me to develop a comprehension that, he has feelings for this girl. I don't know how genuine they are because he said alot of things along the lines of doing sexually explicit things with her. hes never like that with me when we're alone. he respects my space and has never tried to get sexually physical with me, or has said anything of the sexual nature. but don't get me wrong we do flirt around with each other

so, the day I finally told him how I felt, he had a happy, yet surprised expression on his face. he was speechless for the most part...and then his happy expression turned to one of disappointment I guess because he finally replied with "how come you hadnt said anything earlier? things would have turned out way differently". I know he's seeing this other girl, but it seems casual to me...and his relationship status on his facebook profile has remained to single. I don't know why he told me about this other girl and I also don't know if I should try winning him over, or just do nothing.

what should I do?

[RdHrshyKss]

i don't know if there is much else you can do. i'm not one who agrees with getting in between two people. it's really bad karma. you told him how you felt, now it's up to him to decide what he wants to do. don't sit around waiting for him though, let him know that you are interested in him, but that you aren't interested in being the safety, because then he'll take advantage. if he says he's involved with someone else, then the timing is off and you should stay open to other people. DO NOT get involved with him when he's still with this other girl. she should be completely out of the picture before anything like that happens.

[skeptic]

ya that's so true. I deff don't want to be a safety net cause you're right. guys will take advantage of that. haha and yeaah the timing sucks, but what's done is done. thanks for the solid advice eh, I appreciate it alot.

(:

[RdHrshyKss]

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