she wants to go out by herself.

[qwertyuiop]

i always try and keep my girlfreind company when going out with her, but if ive got freinds around to talk to i will also spend time talking to them, but include her too if she wanted. if she wanted to wander off i would still check on her every once in a while to check she was alright or not passed out drunk anywhere, or being abused or something. but i have to admit that i get annoyed when she is off for ages sitting with a group of guys or something and wants me to leave her alone and i am sitting around with not much to do. it makes me feel like i must be a bit boring. i never really feel the need to go chatting to people i dont know.

am i being unfair? or am i just uncool?

she recently said that she feels she needs to spend time appart from me on occassion so that she has freinds seperate to me because when her last boyfreind left her she had no one to talk to about it.

what should i do?

[abercromqt20]

give her the space she needs. right or wrong she thinks she needs it, and if you don't give it to her she will just end up being spiteful towards you. i don't totally know your situation. you may be smothering her. or maybe that's not the case at all. i think you need to figure out if the problem is her or you and then take it from there. if the problem is you, then just give her the space she needs. if she is the one with the problem then you have a way bigger problem on your hands.

[qwertyuiop]

what does it mean if she is the one with the problem?

[King Zarathu]

tell her that you think y'all should take a break. don't tell her what exactly, but tell her y'all need a break. don't talk to her for a total of 7 days. during this time she'll either really really really really really really really really miss you a LOT, or she'll find some other guy to be with. if it's #1, great, then solve ur problem while she's in that state of mood towards you. if #2, good for her, da bitz (say it out loud lol) found somebody else, she wasn't the right one for you, ya gotta get over her, and meanwhile get some head from the school slut . kidding. if it's #2 then dude i don't know, that'll be another thread u'll have to post.

i went through a "break" w/ my g/f and afterwards she was all over me.

[qwertyuiop]

yeah. i know i probably do contact her too much. every day i try not to, but i cant help myself and always find myself messaging her on her phone or sending an email.

but that wouldnt really solve my problem. i know she is interested in me. she always tells me that she misses me, and asks me to come over during the week alot, even though we spend 4 nights of the week together anyway.

[cbee]

I always like going out with friends by myself it doesn't necessarily mean anything.

You can either give her the space and hope that that is just what she wants to see friends and not to distance herself from you or you can not give it to her and drive her away because she'll feel smothered.

[KirstyM]

Give her the space she wants, surely shes worth it?