There is no fun in my relationship!
I am content with my fiance, but I feel that our relationship is very bland. With the looming matter of marriage, I have become increasingly concerned if I will be able to be content with him for the rest of my life.
The guy I dated previous to my current fiance made me laugh constantly and we conversed fabulously. Unfortunately, it was a long distance relationship and I wanted someone closer (we both had to finish our way through college). We stayed good friends for several years after my fiance and I started dating, and we still talked often. After the engagement, he started to back away more and more, and thus we haven't had contact for a year. Now, it's become painfully obvious that I have so very little laughter in my life, and I really miss that a lot.
On the other end of the spectrum, my fiance does not understand any of my jokes and rarely cracks a smile. He does not have a passion for much of anything (aside from perhaps technology and gaming?). We don't really laugh together, and our dates rarely go beyond dinner and a movie. When I try to initiate something more spontaneous, there is always some reason for it to be turned down. However, he is very loving, often tells me that I am beautiful, and is always supportive when I need help. We are both very financially stable (whereas the previous guy was not), which is perhaps shallow, but important to me to raise children in a home that does not struggle for money.
It boils down to me being scared of giving up what I have when there is really nothing fundamentally flawed with my current relationship. I'm not depressed by any means, but I also know I have been a lot more cheerful in the past. I just don't want this nagging feeling to grow into something much worse in the future... when I could have stopped it now. Should I just be appreciative of what I have? I hate to feel like I am asking for perfection, but I'm scared I could be passing up something very amazing.
I appreciate your thoughts on the situation, and I am very glad I got some of that off of my mind!