How do I tell her..

[feelslikeido]

I had been friends with her for 7 yrs, always purely as a friend; nothing more. Then we hooked up, it was very intimate (not just a fling). It lasted a short while (a few days while we were in the same city). I know she felt something and I did too at the time. But now that I look at the situation I know there's no way I want a relationship with her - I want her as a friend. How do I tell her this? I'm thinking a letter... tips/advice would be great!

I want us to move on from this (not as though it didn't happen but try and get back to being really good friends ONLY).

For now I want to tell her in the best way possible. I'm aware that if I write the wrong thing in the letter she'll have that with her forever and she'll think of me in some bad way forever. I'm obviously trying to deal with the situation as honestly and as honourably as I can so I want that to be evident to her so that we can be friend. So please help!

BTW: if it were any other girl I'd just sit down and chat about it. but it's not just any girl. so it's really important that I get this right.

[xTwinklex]

I'm sorry to say this, but if you crossed that boundary, there will always be a crack, even if it is repaired. No matter how much you convey your honourable feelings, she will feel hurt and betrayed. If she is mature and such a good friend she'll make it work, but there are no garantees. You have to make a promise to never ever let her think anything between you can go beyond that of a friendship - if you let it happen again you'll lure her into a false sense of security. Writing the letter is a good way - MUCH better than a text. A handwritten letter shows effort and more thought being put into what your saying. As a woman, those tiny details make a difference. The next few times you see each other, let it be public and GL