I'm an Atheist...she's a Mormon

[jorgebryson]

Title explains all really...

We've been together for about five weeks, and we've talked about religion a couple times, mainly the Mormon belief of being together after death...(two Mormons, once married, are bound together for eternity)

Now, I'm pretty open about religion, I'm technically an atheist, but I'm open about other religions, I like to learn about them, and respect there beliefs, and, if need be, follow them the best I can.

As I've said, we talked about it, and we agreed that, if possible, to not let religion get in the way, we love each other a lot, but I'm just wondering about the future.

Parents, marriage, kids (if that ends up happening)...how would all that end up working out.

So yeah, if anyone has experience with this, I'd be glad to hear your input...thanks in advance.

[Gribble]

How important is it to you that your children have a chance to determine for themselves what they want to believe when they grow up? She's probably going to want to teach them the Mormon faith from birth. In all likelihood your children will grow up Mormon. They will probably never consider another faith, they will think it's sinful to so much as doubt the bible or the existence of their god.

If you can deal with her brainwashing your kids, go for it.

[xxazurexx]

The way I see things, is when you meet someone and decide to get involved with that person who you knew to be of a differing relgion, you know what you are getting. And if you think it may cause problems down the line, then you'd be best off not getting involved.

If it bothers you that she might brainwash any future kids, then you'd be best off looking for someone who may be compatible with you, ie: another athiest.

Personally I think kids should be allowed to choose for themselves and when older, which religion they wish to follow....if any.

I am Methodist and my ex hubby was Catholic. Because of our differing religions is why she was never baptised and we were of the opinion that when she get older she would choose for herself. Well now she is older and she is leaning toward the Catholic faith and without having it forced down her throat - doesn't bother me in the slightest and because she will be making her own independant choice.

There are only problems and if you allow there to be problems.

[hurt_confuzd]

As an atheist, your level of tolerance over time begins to decrease. I can predict, with near certainty, that you're going to grow tiresome of her stupidity.

Do you understand the foundations of Mormonism? The fact that this religion even took off just astounds me to no end. They didn't even allow blacks to serve them until 1978.

Joseph Smith is clearly a raging fàggot.

[vashti]

(two Mormons, once married, are bound together for eternity)

Damn. That's brutal.

[VincenzoG91]

(two Mormons, once married, are bound together for eternity)

Wow. So, like when five Mormons are married together, all five are bound together for eternity?

[IndiReloaded]

LOL, yes this could work out just fine. She should be very understanding when you acquire your 2nd and 3rd girlfriends.

[Illusional]

yes, as far as i'm concerned, when it comes to a girl and me, i don't give a f*ck what kinda religion she is. AS AS AS long as she doesn't impose anything on me. i'm also an atheist, but things are different when it comes to children. i will let my children choose whatever belief that they want, but my wife had better not get sneaky behind my back about any bs. as for as her parents goes, they can stay the f*ck out of it because i'm be damned if my in laws were gonna tell me how to raise my kids.


raverboy

[Sonrisa]

As an atheist, your level of tolerance over time begins to decrease. I can predict, with near certainty, that you're going to grow tiresome of her stupidity.

Do you understand the foundations of Mormonism? The fact that this religion even took off just astounds me to no end. They didn't even allow blacks to serve them until 1978.

Joseph Smith is clearly a raging fàggot.

i am a Mormon, you idiot!

[ftm]

Many religions put a very strong emphasis on marrying people of the same faith, and this is particularly true of the Mormon faith. Has this girl voiced any concerns to you? How "Mormon" is she? By this I mean, is she just mormon culturally, or does she adhere to all of the practices of the faith with devout enthusiasm?

[vashti]

You can forget about sexy black lace underwear. They are only allowed to wear white. lol

[Mish]

You can forget about sexy black lace underwear. They are only allowed to wear white. lol

And only if it's magic underwear

[Illusional]

oh brother, that reminds me,.... mormons don't drink on sundays right??? dammit, i can't buy liquor on sundays. hahaha... my coworkers were telling me that they went to georgia and it's IS like that. f*ck, it's mormon town in one area of oahu too, but it's a good thing that when we went camping down laie side, i had already stocked up on my liquor. whooo whooot.


raverboy

[jorgebryson]

Many religions put a very strong emphasis on marrying people of the same faith, and this is particularly true of the Mormon faith. Has this girl voiced any concerns to you? How "Mormon" is she? By this I mean, is she just mormon culturally, or does she adhere to all of the practices of the faith with devout enthusiasm?

I can't say that she's a devout Mormon, she's somewhere in-between, she believes in the no sex before marriage, no drinking, smoking, drugs, the usual. I believe in these things too...(well, the no sex before marriage...maybe) but she's broken some of there rules, the no dating before 16 rule, the rules about caffeine and what-not. While she is a Mormon, the majority of the rules she follows (at least, to my understanding) she follows because of her parents.

[Incognito]

If she is over 18, living on her own, and still chooses to be affiliated with Mormons then she will adhere to at least some of their teachings. Love will cloud your judgement. You know full well, deep down inside, that if you proceed with this it will one day fail. Eventually you will have to be involved in whatever traditions that she wants to do with her family and the other things like no drinking and no caffeine (no caffeine?!?! WTF?) will get to be tiresome. I dated a Jewish woman years ago. She wasn't really into the religion, and even confided to me that she didn't care for organized religion in general. Did that stop her from going to the Synagogue at every appointed time? No. Did it stop her from participating in every tradition and religious celebration? No. She claimed to do it all for her parents so that she didn't break their hearts. Had our relationship lasted I'm sure I'd be staring down the barrel of a Bris for m first son followed by studying at the Synagogue and a Barmitzfah. Once all the love and sex dies down you are left with the person. If that person's core values and beliefs don't mesh with yours there will be problems. Both of you need to be dead honest with yourselves. You owe it to yourselves.