Dating again

[greenman212]

So i am just new to this forum but its really nice there is a community out there that support each other at all stages of any relationship which is really comforting for me.

I am 22 a guy i have alot of passions in life, and i haven't dated or for that matter even kissed a girl in 3 years. And no i do not live in my parents basement, i have a job my own place and ran half a marathon here. So ok its been ages and i thought what the heck, i meet one girl out at a bar one night chatted for bit got her number etc. And i thought well nows as good a time as any to ask someone out to go see a movie or somthing. So ok i meet up with her and we had this private joke about plastic flowers so i got her a real one, she took it looked at it and handed it straight back at me. I just took it on the chin and tried to turn it into a joke and tease her or somthing to make it less horrible even though it was very insulting so ok, and for that matter i kind of made an effort and wore a nice jacket jeans and shirt. She worse jeans and jumper.

I didnt really care it was just nice to get some confidence, so ok we go to the cinema but the movie doesn't start for another 30 min so there is a bar across the road and she said why don't we get a drink before the movie so i get her a drink and i had a pint of guinness as a proper Irish guy, we chatted well i had to break the ice more, and before i knew it she finished her drink before i got down a 1/3 of my pint and she ended up talking about how she hates some one of her friends and how one is pregnant and how she was cheating on people and thought it was funny. So ok i didnt really care we head over to the movie get her cinema ticket and ok movie was ok she didnt talk much then again its a movie.

She was all quiet and then she wanted to go to another bar, and i was ehhh ok, though really a meal would have been better.

So we end up drinking more and she kept wanting me to get her drinks and it was all just getting wierd listening to her talk about her ex and how she likes guys with tattoo's and piercings. Even though i keep trying to steer the conversation to what music does she like, what movies or even what does she want to do with her life because she literally does nothing, of course she says she wants to be a doctor and seemed to have no passion for anything.

She ended up heading home around 11pm from meeting up at 3pm and all i got was a "was fun " in a txt as a thank you for the day and she has not texted/called me but my best friend she has been trying to talk to him but he isnt interested since i can trust him. This whole experience has left me felt very dis-heartend about life.

I didnt date for 3 years or really deal with girls because i wanted to fullfill my passions and do things for myself, but it seems there are next to no people that do this anymore. And whats worse girls now seem a first date should be lets go to a bar and drink until we die.


And coupled with the fact to be atractive to women you have to have tatoo's and piercings what happened to be yourself. The whole point of dressing goth or emo was all about being yourself and reflecting your music tastes and passions. I just dress how i want thank you and do what i want and actually like the music they pretend to like and know nothing about.

Whats happened the world 3 years ago people used to say what they mean and had passion are there any nice girls left in the world i think i might just give up i've tried online dating but nothing happened in months i've tried talking to girls but i just give up whats happened!!

[angel2002]

Well first of all, this girl is a weirdo, and she is a drunk lol you can bet it.
And yes, there are still nice and normal girls that like to do normal things but drinking till they die. you were just unlucky to have found this girl, but think, she is the first one you have hang around after your time for yourself.
Much more will come by, so kep trying and you will find someone good, that share the same interests and needs as you.
Plus this girl was just so much more interested in the drinks you could afford her.
My advice, next time you hang out with a girl on a date, dont pay her things like that, it is 50% 50%, plus its passed the time where the man has to buy everything so he is good enough.
Good luck with your next dates, kepp on trying. you are young and sure will find love soon
Take care

[Gigabitch]

You picked a bad one, that's all.

For the record, I think tattoos and piercings make men look juvenile and unattractive. The world hasn't changed so much in three years, but your "bitch radar" may be a little rusty. Don't give up. Try again.