I don’t know what to think. I’m having my time of the month so I tend to be quite moody. I went out with my new guy the other night and we met a few people, new to both of us. One girl was quite friendly and I noticed how much attention she was giving my guy. I don’t mind normally because to me it’s flattering that another girl fancies him but when my fella said to me that my cleaner hadn’t called him to clean his apartment she butted in quite enthusiastically and said she would clean it and they swapped numbers and fb accounts. Now she is a complete stranger to both of us and I’m still only getting to know my guy, so my reaction was happy for him but secretly I was thinking there is something up with this girl. she doesn’t know him and is more than happy to go to his apartment alone…I’m thinking….well maybe I’m thinking too much.
Anyway I think I have messed things up, texting is something couples shouldn’t do..lesson learned. He texts me and asks me how I am, I text him back asking how his day went coz I knew he was anxious about a meeting he had in work…no reply (which is a bit odd coz he is really very good so far at being overly responsive). So my mind starts working overtime, this girl we met left a fb message on his page that day and he responded…well i’m thinking she went over to his apartment and started ‘cleaning’. I hate fb now too, I’m never using it again.
Have I become one of these obsessive lunatics?
I actually really like this guy. He’s really sweet and overall I am so attracted to him, I think I need to wind my neck back in and take some time away from him to chill myself out a bit. there is more to this story but I’m cringing that I exposed my feelings so clearly to him and the fact that he can affect me so easily. He knows what I was thinking. I just want to run away now and forget this ever happened.
Guys this is a complete turn off right? I should just never contact him again to redeem myself.
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30-07-10, 10:24 PM #1
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cringe...that all i can say about this
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30-07-10, 10:30 PM #2
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clean his apartment? i dont think ur thinking too much in to this. since its just a new relationship, maybe you should just let it go. if he knew what you were thinking and didnt even bother to make you feel better about it, then i dont think he'll be any better in the future. he'll just get more girls to wash his dishes or clean the car.
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30-07-10, 11:42 PM #3
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Seems so odd, I'd be weirded out too. Either he's completey daft or really has just been busy, its his loss though if he'd start shacking up with some random girl who just goes around offering to clean strangers homes. If thats the case then don't worry, she'll find plenty more places to "clean" she just sounds sloooty.
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31-07-10, 12:27 AM #4
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thanks adam and queen for responding. i feel really lucky now, he just called me and made me feel great, he misses me, he was busy in work and told me not to worry, yep i'm a paranoid schizo and he seems to be ok with that. i should be caged around my period
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31-07-10, 12:53 AM #5
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I don't think you were being a paranoid schizo at all. I would have been a little weirded out, too.. the whole clean the apartment thing is very strange. I am glad he called you and said those things; hope it all works out for you!
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31-07-10, 01:03 AM #6
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Okay my first reponse was get a grip! She could be a cleaner (as a profession or on the side). My mother does this and eargly tries to solicit clients in such a casual manner as well. (Is he paying her?!?- if he isn't I would tell him he NEEDS to)
BUUUT... since you say she was super attentive and all that... maybe it's a little like ummm really? However, keep in mind you're totally oversentive right now with your rag and all I get that revisit the situation in 2 weeks when your emotions and all that is back in check. I don't think he's going to go home and bone the new cleaning lady I guess is what I'm trying to say.
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31-07-10, 01:08 AM #7
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I'm picturing a random hot girl wearing a sexy french maid outfit and tickling some guy with a feather duster.
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31-07-10, 01:49 AM #8
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HA- im sure the OP really wanted to know that..
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31-07-10, 02:10 AM #9
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You jerk! Dude. Really? Why would you say something stupid and unnecessary like that? I usually love your posts because you're so attentive, but this one was just careless. Originally Posted by VincenzoG91
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31-07-10, 04:19 AM #10
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To the OP, I think that it's appropriate for you to be concerned, but I don't think the current circumstances are serious enough to warrant dumping him. Keep an eye on this situation.
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31-07-10, 04:30 AM #11
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why was she cleaning his apartment?
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31-07-10, 04:48 AM #12
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If this chick isn't a professional cleaner of some kind, then that is friggin' weird. I'd only offer such a favor if I wanted to ensure seeing the guy again. But to clean his apartment? It wreaks of desperation in a way.
