Havent made love for over 3 weeks but she says she still loves me

[Albinoni]

A week ago or so I posted on this Forum my first post re Ejaculation Probs, and to say thanks alot to those who answered that post.

Now I am going to start Part 2 of what I have to say here and your help here would be really greatly appreciated, feel free to ask me any questions if you wish and feel free to place good advice.

Ok on with the problem or what I need to say. My gf and I havent made love.had sex for almost 3 weeks prob more now. I dont live with her but occasionally stay at her place now and again, help each other out, go out, date, etc etc etc and off course we do sleep in the same bed, cuddle and kiss full on and we get along well, but occasionlly wil have the small argument or small dissagreement etc etc, rmemeber everyone has arguments in their relaionship inc my Mum and Dad, its part of life.

Anyhow because sometimes I have probs coming/ejaculating it upsets here and she thinks by me not coming or not coming now and again it makes her feel that I dont find her attractive at all, which to me is totally not true. I love this girl for everything she is, her personality, intelligence, charisma, looks etc etc and rmember to me sex is not everything in a relationship, theres more to it than just sex. So though she loves me alot and tells me that everyday without fail, she will not have sex with me or we havent made love for over 3 weeks now, though we will sleep in the same bed, we will kiss passionately, tells me that she loves me very much etc etc, cuddle me etc.

This has in some ways hurt me, I am not saying that she has totally ruled out not having sex with me, but I just hope that she realizes that making love to one another is one key ingredient in a relationship.

On the other hand I dont want to force myself onto her to have sex, its the last thing I want to do, but all I want for her is to be fair on me, understand my side as well and give me a fair go. Also I think the more often we make love than this will help and improve on my side of coming as well, like they say "practice makes perfect" but sadly this does not happen and this is why I need to resort to masturbating half the time to let it out.

I know as a fact she does love me very much as she tells me that everyday and she even tells me that she misses me alot, we kiss full one, feel each other, laugh, joke, date, go out etc etc, but the sex or no sex has alot to be desired.

Help would be appreacited.

Questions:

1. Should I slowly back off from her and pplay my games now, eg pull back a bit, I dont mean totally ignore her.

2. When it comes to making love, its me that does most of the 4 play, is she being selfish on my side, what to do ?

3. How can I make her this time chase me and to miss me ?

Thanks

[girl68]

You need to talk to her. You need to tell her that you not cumming has less to do with her and more to do with pressure, and health (or whatever it is as to why you have this problem, you also need to be actively seeking out solutions).

[Albinoni]

You need to talk to her. You need to tell her that you not cumming has less to do with her and more to do with pressure, and health (or whatever it is as to why you have this problem, you also need to be actively seeking out solutions).

I hate to say this but I have tried to talk to her and she is stubborn to talk to, you see to her its all my fault not hers, but no wrong she is also at fault and not just me.

I dont have a prob with my health at all, I am fit, I dont smoke or drink, eat healthy food etc. So my health is fine.

Like I said she can be stuuborn and does not look at two sides of the story or situation, which I am finding unfair on me.

[IncognitoSir]

I got some questions for you.

1. Are you overweight?
2. Do you spank the monkey much?
3. Do you have problems getting it up?


I know of a all natural supplement that would probably completly solve your little problem as well as blow her sox off in the sack ya dig?

[Albinoni]

I got some questions for you.

1. Are you overweight?
2. Do you spank the monkey much?
3. Do you have problems getting it up?


I know of a all natural supplement that would probably completly solve your little problem as well as blow her sox off in the sack ya dig?

1. I am 43 and i weigh 84kg or close

2. You mean masturbate, yes I do almost everyday infact sometimes 2 to 3 times a day, but I have to resort to this because she wont have sex with me and I have not other option to let it out, am I at fault here.

3. No not at all, unless I dont feel like it or tired etc.

[IncognitoSir]

Okay, Definately chill out on the 2-3 times per day if you can. Thats not helping the problem at all. I'll send you some info via PM okay. Stuff works great. Actaully increases your VOLUME and pretty much makes sex even better altogether. You can buy it at most nutrition stores and it's totally legal and safe to take, but I'll let you do some research on it yourself. I'm pretty sure this will take care of your problem.

[Albinoni]

Okay, Definately chill out on the 2-3 times per day if you can. Thats not helping the problem at all. I'll send you some info via PM okay. Stuff works great. Actaully increases your VOLUME and pretty much makes sex even better altogether. You can buy it at most nutrition stores and it's totally legal and safe to take, but I'll let you do some research on it yourself. I'm pretty sure this will take care of your problem.

Ok so you think it culd be masturbating too much?

Also I forgot too add here, I do use a condom and it is tight, not over ly but bit tight.

Really appreciate your help.

[IncognitoSir]

Yeah, when you bust nutz all day like that, there isn't much left to bust at the end of the day. your testies work ONLY so fast ya know. So ease off the spanking as much as possible. Oh yeah, eat celery.....Lots! Increases volume as well, thats a old porn trick. Don't ask me how I know about that lol.

[Albinoni]

Yeah, when you bust nutz all day like that, there isn't much left to bust at the end of the day. your testies work ONLY so fast ya know. So ease off the spanking as much as possible. Oh yeah, eat celery.....Lots! Increases volume as well, thats a old porn trick. Don't ask me how I know about that lol.

I read somewhere where they said if you masterbate too much, your dick gets to use to your hand or palm and than it has a different feel to the vagina and by the time one comes to having sex with a woman or vagina there is hardly any sperm left in there.

Also have you heard of a stuff called Horny Goat weed ?

[Raze]

You masturbate too much.

[IncognitoSir]

I read somewhere where they said if you masterbate too much, your dick gets to use to your hand or palm and than it has a different feel to the vagina and by the time one comes to having sex with a woman or vagina there is hardly any sperm left in there.

Also have you heard of a stuff called Horny Goat weed ?

Yeah, check your PM. The stuff I reccomended for you has that in it. It helps. But yes, too much of anything is bad for you. Even beating your junk.

[girl68]

I hate to say this but I have tried to talk to her and she is stubborn to talk to, you see to her its all my fault not hers, but no wrong she is also at fault and not just me.

I dont have a prob with my health at all, I am fit, I dont smoke or drink, eat healthy food etc. So my health is fine.

Like I said she can be stuuborn and does not look at two sides of the story or situation, which I am finding unfair on me.

That has nothing to do with sex she HAS to listen.

[RdHrshyKss]

i have a belief (this is purely my opinion because i have no facts to back it up except for my own experience) that men who masturbate as often as you do (2-3 times a day!), are actually creating a psychological and even physiological dependency on the way in which they come. my bf masturbates in a particular fashion (i happened to walk in on him doing it so that's how i know haha) and i've noticed that the position he is in while we are having sex that makes him come is almost exactly the same as the position he is in when he masturbates. he masturbates pretty often as well. in the beginning i didn't know how often he masturbated, but now that we live together, i have become more aware of it, and i think that it is part of the reason that he is unable to come in different positions. i've tried asking him to cut down on his masturbation sessions, and he has to a certain extent...but it is literally like a bad habit, an addiction.

also understand that it is not abnormal for someone (especially a woman) to feel like they are not attractive enough or are doing something wrong if you can't come when having sex with them, but have no problem coming while masturbating multiple times a day. granted, if she is a selfish person, and has the mentality that you need to do all the work in the sex department, then i could see how it would be difficult for you to come because of all the pressure. my guess is that you are thinking about it way too much. you are letting your head (the one that holds your brain) get in the way too much. first off, stop masturbating as often...be patient and hold off, limit it to like 2-3 times per week. save up that energy for when your gf is in the mood...you'll be craving it a lot more and your hormones will be driving you more than your brain. second, do what girl said. sit down and talk to your girlfriend about it. explain to her that you understand how she must feel about everything, but that you want to work with her to make things better. tell her that you don't want to be the one to initiate all the time, that it adds way too much pressure on you. it might be one of the reasons you haven't been able to come with her. tell her that in order for things to work out properly she needs to be as equally involved in your sex life. but don't expect her to want to have it as often as you do! just be patient and try your best to work with your girlfriend on this. it's not something that you can do on your own. you both need to work together to come to some kind of balance.

[Albinoni]

Yeah, check your PM. The stuff I reccomended for you has that in it. It helps. But yes, too much of anything is bad for you. Even beating your junk.

Ive checked notings come through as yet.

[Albinoni]

i have a belief (this is purely my opinion because i have no facts to back it up except for my own experience) that men who masturbate as often as you do (2-3 times a day!), are actually creating a psychological and even physiological dependency on the way in which they come. my bf masturbates in a particular fashion (i happened to walk in on him doing it so that's how i know haha) and i've noticed that the position he is in while we are having sex that makes him come is almost exactly the same as the position he is in when he masturbates. he masturbates pretty often as well. in the beginning i didn't know how often he masturbated, but now that we live together, i have become more aware of it, and i think that it is part of the reason that he is unable to come in different positions. i've tried asking him to cut down on his masturbation sessions, and he has to a certain extent...but it is literally like a bad habit, an addiction.

also understand that it is not abnormal for someone (especially a woman) to feel like they are not attractive enough or are doing something wrong if you can't come when having sex with them, but have no problem coming while masturbating multiple times a day. granted, if she is a selfish person, and has the mentality that you need to do all the work in the sex department, then i could see how it would be difficult for you to come because of all the pressure. my guess is that you are thinking about it way too much. you are letting your head (the one that holds your brain) get in the way too much. first off, stop masturbating as often...be patient and hold off, limit it to like 2-3 times per week. save up that energy for when your gf is in the mood...you'll be craving it a lot more and your hormones will be driving you more than your brain. second, do what girl said. sit down and talk to your girlfriend about it. explain to her that you understand how she must feel about everything, but that you want to work with her to make things better. tell her that you don't want to be the one to initiate all the time, that it adds way too much pressure on you. it might be one of the reasons you haven't been able to come with her. tell her that in order for things to work out properly she needs to be as equally involved in your sex life. but don't expect her to want to have it as often as you do! just be patient and try your best to work with your girlfriend on this. it's not something that you can do on your own. you both need to work together to come to some kind of balance.

Thanks alot for your info here and well appreciated. Ok i will promise to take your advice and cut down on my masterbating to 2 to 3 times a week, therefore allowing it to build up and driving my hormones crazy :-)

But its important I ask the following:

1. Assume once again I am horny and ready for it to make love to her again, how can I initiate it or make the move to her to make love to her. Reason why I am asking this is because last time (bout 2 weeks ago) when I tried to do it she refused and said to me
she doesnt want to have sex anymore cause she gets upset when I cant come, and this really hurt me alot. I mean she has to be fair on me as well and give me a fair go if not give both of us a fair go and not ignore the situation.