Hi - im new to this site and well here goes nothing ( it makes me laugh how many times im sure someones started like that )
So - ive been going out with my finace for around 4 years. when we were first dating i knew 100% that i wanted to marry him. Now .. i just .. could be having cold feet? I am surrounded by divorce.. child of divorce.. ladies in the office are divorced etc. etc. From their divorce, they do find happiness. Its not getting divorced that worries me-
My man, hes lazy. when hes frustrated he gives up instantly. then after sleeping on it, his common sense kicks in. He doesnt have any college education, and we cant afford for him to go back to school yet. Hes had trouble keeping a job, hes been off work for a while due to a leg injury and hes in pain alot. So naturally cleaning etc after working my ass off all week while he sits there is really getting to me. And i know hes in pain, and it makes me feel guilty that im pissed..
You know things could work themselves out, once the leg gets better, and he gets a job etc etc - i do think things could change. I just wonder - what if they dont? .. if they dont then i guess the answer is easy - but if i am asking myself this and thinking about it - is he still the one? no one is perfect...
Do i rationalize breaking up now without seeing what happens in the future? Do i risk ending love for something that could change?
I guess the main question is : when two people get married - do they get married knowing that it will last forever? or do they get married knowing that they will be happy for the time that have together, even if its not forever?
Thanks. DearDorthy XX