Originally Posted by
Graham Berkeley
Awfully defensive Vashti...
BTW what is the nature of your job/marriage and responsibilities that you can reply so quickly to everyone post in every single thread at seemingly any time of day? I go back and forth through phases of posting on this forum and every time I log in most threads are populated by your replies and rebuttals...
Why wouldn't someone defend their difference of opinion? That's kind of what's at the heart of a debate isn't it? You're not asking for advice, just rambling about some pseudo-intellectual self discovery you claim to have found.
Me? I HATE company picnics. Perhaps the reason spouses weren't happy is because they felt forced to go to an event that they really didn't want to go to. As for guys longing for the good old days, nobody tricked them into getting married. They may occasionally yearn for days of yore, but I'd rather go through a bad time with a spouse than without one. Just because times are tough doesn't mean that one spouse or the other caused the tough time. Having married the wrong person, and then the right person, I can tell you that when you have a good matching partner your life really is better. Even during the tough times. If you don't want to get married, that's perfectly fine and your choice. Just don't come here to post some rambling crap manifesto about why you are making that choice. Honestly it sounds like you're actually rather bitter about committed relationships and you're trying to justify to yourself why you wouldn't want to get married.
So, here's a good breakdown of life. Couple 1 was expecting a new child, and things were tense. They weren't sure how they were going to afford it yet. Couple 2 would rather have been out boating on the lake, but the guy felt as if he would be passed over for promotion by not being a team player and attending. Couple 3 has a sick dog, so they're just stressed in general...Oh and their car is on its last legs and they haven't had a raise in 2 years.
"Well, then," the Cat went on, "you see a dog growls when it's angry, and wags its tail when it's pleased. Now I growl when I'm pleased, and wag my tail when I'm angry. Therefore I'm mad."