Strange feeling about him

[BusyBee]

Hello everybody! I have a little issue I'd like to discuss. I have been with my boyfriend now for 5 months and frankly he is a lovely bloke, sexy, funny, interesting, caring, I mean I didn't think there were any left like him. He is 11 years older than me, I'm 34 and he is 45. Him and his wife got divorced 7 years ago, they'd been married for 18 years and have a teenage son.
Now here is what bothers me, last Saturday, we were on the way to a dinner party when we discussed the way some people think it's perfectly ok to dump somebody via text message.
He said, happened to me once and that's when my brain started trying to assimilate the info. I mean, we discussed past relationships and the way they ended but as far as he'd told me up to then, he had 2 serious relationships that lasted nearly 3 years each, then he had a short affair with a woman for 2 weeks and that was it. The first one, he dumped her, the second one, they had an argument and she ended up leaving him and the affair ended upon common consent.
Now, I wondered when that text message story happened and he said with his last relationship, the one he has before me, they'd been together for 4 months and he couldn't drive to her house a couple of times cos the roads were snowed in and she thought he wasn't interested anymore and dumped him. That would be fair enough, but in February to April this year, I had to go to an eye specialist twice a week cos I had caught a serious infection in my right eye and as it happens to be, my eye specialist is in the same town as that woman lives in. The only weeks were the road were shut because of the snow, were the 2 last weeks of March and that would mean the he started going out with me and was either still with her or had just broken up, but then apparently they thought about moving in together but then don't you find it strange for somebody who just got dumped to jump on teh next woman.
I might sound paranoic but somehow I think, hmm? What do you think?

[WICKED THOUGHTS]

Ummm, stop thinking so much and enjoy the moment. imo

[VincenzoG91]

Yeah, don't over-analyze this. If he got dumped by text, that probably wasn't one of his "serious" relationships.

Anyway, he's with you now. He has a past, but I imagine that you have one, too. Leave the past in the past and focus on the present, or you won't have a future together.

[BusyBee]

I have never been one for affairs. I'm actually quite independant and worked hard to have a carreer which means that the only realtionship I have had lasted 6 years. Sex based relationships were not even considered. I travelled a lot and din't start anything becos I didn't want to hurt anybody. If the last one wasn't serious, how do I figure out, this one is, cos Iif I'm wasting my time, I want to know and I'll leave him to his sort term things.

[Gigabitch]

If the relationship didn't mean anything, you don't need any time to get over it. You can start dating someone else five minutes later.

[BusyBee]

Ok, but then if he meant to move in with her, it did mean something, didn't it?